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I have a few friends that are women and they often complain to me about not being able to meet a guy. I tell them straight up that they're good looking and not crazy so they really have nobody to blame but themselves. Not hard meeting guys when you're good looking. I mean they get asked out at least twice a day. How hard is it to show up at some event with one of your girlfriends like a super-car trade-show show or a Rolex trade show or something. There are a lot of single eligible bachelors at these types of events. They just have to show up and give their numbers to someone they find attractive and nice. Do that enough times and you'll have a boyfriend. I told them they need to lower their standards or else they're going to end up alone. The clocks ticking and when they turn 30 the guys they rejected at 25 will start to look good and at 35 the guys they rejected at 30 will look really good. Some other women sometimes tell me I am being mean but I am not going to tell people the world is all sugar and spice and that everything will work out because that's not reality. Some people end up alone and that's just a fact. Sometimes the truth hurts but its my duty to not sugarcoat reality for these women.

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Just a thought

May 19, 2019 at 9:19am

Did you ever think that maybe they already know the truth and were just venting to a friend? I know it strokes your ego to think you’re giving them a light bulb moment but I think maybe you're the one who needs a dose of ‘truth.’

It's all about...

May 19, 2019 at 9:26am

... what you want a man for. Is he a fashion accessory or is he a father to your children? A father is not a fashion accessory, though modern divorce law allows women to treat men this way.

Well, don't you seem pleasant.

May 19, 2019 at 9:28am

I really hope this is a troll post, but I'll bite anyway.

You sound like one of those pathetic red pillers.

1. It actually is hard to find someone when you're attractive because you're not often attracting positive attention. Rather, you're objectified on a daily basis, and it's demoralizing. It's hard to tell who's really interested in getting to know you and who's more interested in sleeping with you until they replace you with the next beautiful person. Not all women are interested in being someone's accessory.

2. Meeting a man at a trade show for luxury goods is the epitome of lowering my standards. I couldn't care less about money and am actually repelled by the kind of people who display it for the sake of displaying it. I care more about kindness than I do about status. Maybe your friends do, too, which is why they're single.

3. Many women would rather be alone than lower their standards. It's better to be alone than in a miserable relationship. We only need to experience this once to say "never again".

4. You're spouting a lot of garbage that seems to be straight out of the incel subreddit. Women do not lose value based on their age. Men do not gain value based on their age. I don't care how old you are; being a wonderful or a shitty partner has nothing to do with looks or age. Our worth as human beings - our value - is far more complex than you seem to appreciate.

5. If people are repeatedly telling you you're mean, there's probably some truth in that. A genuine friend doesn't go around hurting their friend's feelings. There's telling "the truth", and then there's being an asshole.

6. You seem convinced that your beliefs are true. Newsflash: that's not a truth, it's a perspective. There are other, less status-driven views on dating and relationships. Look into some. It would be good for you.

7. Lastly, you seem to be patting yourself on the back for being unkind to your female friends. It sounds like you dislike women, and I feel badly for any woman who chooses to be your friend.

Survey says.

May 19, 2019 at 9:39am

You contradict yourself three times in this loose rant.

Lower standards doesn't mean going to the super car show or rolex trade show ( is that such a thing)

It means finding a guy in your own income bracket and social scene and I know for a fact thats likely in the low $45,000.00 like the 90% of people here.

Try not lying to your lady friends and see how it goes.

This line says it all...

"They just have to show up and give their numbers to someone they find attractive and nice. Do that enough times and you'll have a boyfriend"

Wealthy men are usually attracted to cheap things, it's how they stay rich.

Anonymous

May 19, 2019 at 9:46am

I think you're out of touch in believing that women are this desperate for a man. My friends are successful and gorgeous and couldn't care less about lowering their standards or self worth for some dude.

Troll alert

May 19, 2019 at 10:08am

You have "good looking" female friends who get asked out twice a day. Good for you! I'm surprised that guys are asking them out, because I hear that men have given up on women after too much rejection. Or they won't even look at women any more for fear of being accused of assault. Men have given up on women so much that they reject me when I ask them out.

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Actually

May 19, 2019 at 10:37am

You sound like you have no idea what you’re talking about.

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KellyJackson

May 19, 2019 at 12:52pm

A lot of what you have said is true but your packaging is offensive.

There is some truth to what you say. I am quite beautiful and do get asked out a lot but its not from the right kind of men.

I am 23 so I can still hold out for my prince charming but if I am 30 I would lower my standards to meet reality.

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@Well, don't you seem pleasant.

May 19, 2019 at 2:22pm

Bzzt. From the get-go, you start doing this doubletalk thing.

"It actually is hard to find someone when you're attractive because you're not often attracting positive attention."

Fuck right off. Try being ugly. All of this "oh, you don't know how hard it is for us pretty people, we're always having ugmos hit on us!!" crap is ridiculous. Being attractive does not mean you get less positive attention, don't be stupid, there's simply too much research on the benefits of being attractive.

What you mean is what all women mean when they say "it's hard to find someone"---they mean "it's hard to find someone who is A, B and C." Any woman any time of day can have "someone," even if she's broke. This isn't true for men. A woman can any time of day have someone for marriage or for casual sex, the only reason thy don't is because they're picky---and this isn't wrong, it's just that you don't get to complain about how there's no food around because it's a Chinese buffet and you want Boston Pizza.

The issue is that women compete for the top 20% of men, and, obviously, the top 20% of men are having a great ol' time, but this situation doesn't work out very well for ugly men, or the women who hooked up with a top-tier male a few times on Tinder and now expect to marry him.

What

May 19, 2019 at 2:51pm

I always though love didnt care about money or age or class or looks.. Its a feeling in your heart...
True love is about kindness, trusting, being accepting, non judgemental, thinking of others before yourself, being open minded, giving of yourself.
Love shouldnt make you feel bad.
True Love should make you feel at peace and happy and safe.
Suck on that killjoy.

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