No Good Time
posted May 19th, 2019 at 12:55 PM
I found out I can't have children six months ago. I still haven't told my husband. It would really upset him because he wants to be a dad.
Every time I am going to tell him its just never the right time. I am scared he's going to leave me if I tell him.
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Post a CommentSeth1012
May 19, 2019 at 3:55pm
Be honest with him. Keeping a secret like this will be worse the longer you wait. Think about adoption as an alternative after you tell your hubby. Bonus, you won’t need birth control which may make sex even better!
Love, honesty, and respect
May 19, 2019 at 5:48pm
If he would leave you over such a thing, then you should let him, and find someone that would be in love with you in spite of such a thing. You shouldn't sell yourself short, but you should have enough respect for your relationship to be honest about it. There is no point in hiding it. If you're trying to have kids, and it's not happening, he'll eventually find out that it's not him.
Better you tell him soon
May 19, 2019 at 6:19pm
because if he leaves, better to get that pain over with.
No doubt others will recommend adoption or fostering.
But what do you want?
Ego
May 19, 2019 at 11:03pm
You would be better served as a mother with adopted children. The world is on fire. Breeding is harmful. Care for the parent less children and not your husbands ego.
Tyler
May 20, 2019 at 6:37am
Adopt. You can still be parents.
hard truth
May 20, 2019 at 8:04am
if he chooses to leave you because it means something to him to become a biological father does not make him a bad guy or an a-hole. His struggle to have the life he wants will also cost him a great deal: you. It will be just as painful a choice for him to make as your having to tell him the truth is painful for you. This isn't just about you in the end, is it?
I have known several couples who wanted but could not have children and they have stayed happily together. I have also known some who desperately wanted to be mothers and left their men to find someone who could father a biological child, and men who desperately wanted to be fathers and ultimately chose to be a with a child-bearing woman. There is no right or wrong here when it comes to the outcome. But indeed a painful reality. I am so sorry for your pain and good luck. But you must tell the truth.
Anonymous
May 20, 2019 at 8:31pm
"For better or worse"...used to mean something.
My wife and I have no children, through choice. We don't want to raise slaves for the upcoming Dystopian Hell on earth that's coming.
Anonymous
May 24, 2019 at 7:29pm
he could be a dad if u considered adoption.
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