Finally I am brave

I recently gained the courage to become more assertive and stop putting up with my unacceptable work situation. This week I will talk to someone important who will hopefully help me fix things and I will also ask out this guy who I've liked for awhile, but maybe next week hahaha. I am scared but I think I will do all of this. Wish me luck!

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Talk is cheap

Jun 24, 2019 at 6:51am

The proof is in the puddin', puddin'.

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I wish I could have been that guy.

Jun 24, 2019 at 11:51am

Still good luck to you and I mean that I really do. :-)

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Original poster - update

Jun 24, 2019 at 5:12pm

@ I wish I could have been that guy - thanks and what are you talking about, are you talking about the guy I like? I have less than 2 more weeks to gain the courage to just ask him out already. It is so difficult because I have social anxiety, look away after a second, and don't know what to say, ugh! It's so annoying to be me, lol. At least if he says no, I'll be on vacation soon and eventually get over it. I'm so negative sometimes hahaha.

Today I was so nervous to talk to the important person who is my last hope for helping me with my work situation, and I think this person might really help fix things. I just have to be patient. I'm still looking for a new job though, preferably in the same area so it's easy to get to work like it is now.

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@op

Jun 24, 2019 at 6:20pm

No I'm good on him, my aversion for dick would have him and I locked in a very boring and non-sexual couple type relationship. More than likely one of us would be intensely angry all the time from frustrated pent up sexual energy with no path to flow, be felt, given and experienced by two more as one. No sweetheart I meant you, good luck. He is as lucky as they come, if you come back around. When I Come Around- Greenday, if it falters play it and come see me ;-)

BTW if he says no. he is an absolute idiot.

Jun 24, 2019 at 6:43pm

I know because I may have or may have not, it's undecided because it was never discussed again. Cut someone off who was bravely doing as your thinking of, worst mistake of my life nothing say one thing has made me feel so awful. To know I hurt a woman who for all I know was showing me that what I seek most love. Was more than I could stand, I paid dearly for that mistake or not I do not know.

Try Lunch

Jun 24, 2019 at 10:36pm

I grew up with social anxiety so I know how stressful it feels. It feels like the whole world is watching and if it doesn't go through right... Ugh. So, I usually start with something simple - grab a bite for lunch or coffee. See if you hit it off. Find out how he likes to spend his free time and if it's something you would enjoy too, then tell him you're doing it and ask if he wants to come along. If he does, great! If he doesn't, then go anyway and have a good time. Puts yourself in a win-win situation.

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@ BTW

Jun 24, 2019 at 11:57pm

Not OP, but I dig your Scorpionic level of intensity, and your willingness to journey through the underworld for a second chance at great love.

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@@BTW

Jun 25, 2019 at 2:18pm

Scorpion ok, not many would choose this?? Mmm insect? I am unsure what the scorpion is. Still thank you...wait is it that the scorpion is a desert dwelling (whatever) and even in this arid, hot, humid less and unforgiving land it never gives up in it's quest of whatever it is the scorpion is into? Now I need to research info on guess what?

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Original poster again

Jun 25, 2019 at 5:50pm

This is the original poster and I am a female in my 20's. I wonder if he is also shy/has social anxiety because often if we see each other, he also looks at me then quickly looks away. People should just be more direct and ask people out/be honest. I have a few more days before I go on vacation to gain the courage to say something. If I don't say anything, he might meet someone else if he hasn't already. I don't know him that well. It's so weird because around the people I know I am quite outgoing, but when it comes to this guy, I am usually blank thinking of what to say. Hopefully I'll become tough enough (let's get real, I probably won't! :P)

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You have to

Jun 25, 2019 at 8:44pm

You have to get real I can tell you not doing so only leads to so much regret it's literally stifling. Be real you won't regret it, you will not make many friends but who wants fake friends

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