My wife’s privileged upbringing

Me and my wife are educated professionals that can support ourselves. She was brought up in an upper middle class home by highly educated and wealthy parents while I grew up poor(homeless father, neighbourhood stabbings and no dentist poor). Normally it’s manageable but recently the disparity is becoming more apparent(and vexing). We want to install 2000ish square feet of hard wood flooring and she is furious that installers won’t guarantee a finish date or that they won’t give a discount if the job takes longer than expected. When I tell her we will most likely have to pay extra or hand the workers a few hundreds to make sure the job is finished on time, she can’t accept it. She can’t accept that in a wealthy city reliable trades people are more in demand than masters educated professionals. I am getting tired of trying to get this Reno done. All I keep thinking is letting her continue to piss off installers and carpenters, so when we miss our deadlines she will hopefully wake up and realize it’s not how educated you are but rather what you can DO.


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Jun 18, 2019 at 11:28am

so true that last part.

You mean

Jun 18, 2019 at 11:45am

My wife and I.


Jun 18, 2019 at 12:13pm

I have a family member like that, growing up with her was a pain in the ass. My side of the family is poor but her mom and dad can afford things urgh all I heard was this is how much we spent blahs blah blah. They always look down on people who had no money .


Jun 18, 2019 at 1:15pm

doesn't make you classy.
Does she deliver what she demands, and offer discounts for late completion of her work?
Probably just bills more like all other 'professionals'.


Jun 18, 2019 at 1:44pm

Opposites may attract, but commonalities and shared experience sustain a relationship.
I had a similar partnership. After well over a decade, we amicably parted ways.
We wanted different things out of life, but more importantly, our fundamental assumptions were nothing alike. I get on better with people from a background similar to mine - Europeans who grew up much poorer even than you.
That formative experience is crucial. It shapes and informs one's priorities. Easier to share the burdens, appreciate the journey and the company, and find common cause.
Money can't buy that, but it can rent happiness for a long, long time. Good luck.


Jun 18, 2019 at 1:54pm

One of the only kinks in the armour of privilege is the word NO. See how quickly the rich and the beautiful lose their shit when they hear it. As if any disagreement or refusal of their 'needs' is some violation of their human rights. Wankers.

You mean

Jun 18, 2019 at 3:46pm

MY WIFE AND I are educated professionals WHO can support ourselves.

You may be a professional but I call BS on the educated part.

Membership Has it's Privileges

Jun 18, 2019 at 4:53pm

You're the one who married her.


Jun 19, 2019 at 12:30am

Your wife needs a reality check. I change my mothers shitty diapers for a living. My mother has congestive heart failure, is a breast cancer survivor, has a traumatic brain injury from two major events in her 61 years. In the 90’s she was brutally attacked and left for dead. Her attacker is still on the loose. Her second traumatic brain injury event was last February when she went into full cardiac arrest after she tried to commit suicide. The doctor did over forty minutes of cpr on her. She was in a coma for weeks, lastly, did I mention she has Parkinson’s. Your wife should be grateful. And for the record, I’d love to have beautiful hardwood floors rather than laminate, I can’t even afford extra help to take time off, from caring for my mother to care for myself. I have ny own multiple barriers as-well. I just don’t have enough characters remaining to get in to my shit. Changing a shitty adult diaper will humble almost any, tell your wife to get over herself and volunteer her time at a care home.

No offence but....

Jun 19, 2019 at 5:27am


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