Ridiculous crush

I have a huge crush on a guy I work with- I have not had a crush like this since I was like 12...it’s crazy, totally overwhelming and kind of fun to feel this way...but it’s also pointless because he has a girlfriend. I thus have all this insane sexual energy that I feel like is flinging out of me anytime I’m near him and it’s just being wasted...but I can’t get him out of my head. It’s been 6 months! I’ve dated others and then broken up with them because it didn’t seem right to have such an intense attraction to someone else. I realize this is ridiculous. I’m not young either, nor inexperienced in dating/love/sex. I just can’t seem to move past it. Advice?

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You mention that you’re not young

Jun 24, 2019 at 6:57pm

So you should be mature enough to get a grip here.
I’m a single male who worked in a health care environment for many years and was surrounded by attractive women all day every day.
But I knew enough to stay clear.
As the old, wise, expression goes,
“Don’t crap where you eat.”

Get it.

Jun 24, 2019 at 9:05pm

Same.

Anonymous

Jun 24, 2019 at 9:13pm

GF? Dude... not married = not married, and he's not married for a reason.

Seduce him!

It’ll burn out on its own

Jun 24, 2019 at 9:30pm

You probably don’t need to do anything. Time will fade the crush.

I had a crazy crush on a guy at work. It probably lasted a year. And then with repeat exposure, one day the crush disappeared. The guy actually grossed me out now. It’s your mind playing tricks on you — it loves novelty.

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He has a girlfriend

Jun 24, 2019 at 10:02pm

not a wife. And no matter what anyone says there is a distinction between the two. So you know, it would not exactly be an affair situation. But you didn't say whether or not he showed any interest in you. Did he?

Life is short. Enjoy it.

Jun 24, 2019 at 10:26pm

If it really is just a crush, then enjoy it. It's nice to work with attractive people you think are cool. On the other hand if you find him intriguing, then explore. Learn who he is, what he likes and see whether there are opportunities for deeper connections. Why not? Who knows where it might lead?

You girls can be so cruel

Jun 24, 2019 at 10:39pm

Anyways have a nice day, on to the next best thing right? Wow I use to hate having a dick now I wouldn't change it for every single piece of gold on earth. Ladies good luck I think you'll need it.

Survey says.

Jun 24, 2019 at 11:56pm

Old saying goes like this.

Never dip your pen in the company ink.

New saying goes like this.

Don't fuck with other peoples good fortune.

Chances are....

Jun 25, 2019 at 1:24am

If you were to actually get to know this person, they wouldn’t be as amazing as you think. The thing about crushes and infatuation, is that it’s mostly a projection of your own expectations and desires onto another person. The reason he is so appealing is that you’ve created a fantasy of what you think this person is.... and maybe a little part of it is just wanting the unattainable. Thrill of the chase.

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Had a crush too...

Jun 25, 2019 at 3:20am

For quite a while. It was the owner of the company who happens to be very attractive physically. I enjoyed it while it lasted until I realized what a condescending self centered prick he actually is and how poorly he treats his employees. If this person you have a crush on isn't a prick like him, just envision him/her as such and perhaps your crush will fade away... The biggest deal breaker for me was he's a homophobe and a racist. Totally grossed me out permanently!!!! YUCK!

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