Tired of my work situation

posted June 12th, 2019 at 4:43 PM

I am so tired of my work situation. I have put up with it for months. The bosses are aware that we need more staff and they keep making excuses and act like everything is okay. They need to get real and hire more people. The worst part is that I have to pretend to be okay, happy, and positive so that I will get a good reference when I move on to somewhere else. Lately I have been trying to be more assertive and realistic about things with them, so hopefully they will hire more people to balance the high workload. I really liked my job when I started a few years ago. I am a younger person and it is my first job, but lately they are really driving me away because often all of the responsibilities of 2-3 people rest on me which really sucks. They don't pay me enough for this. I wouldn't mind travelling to a further job if it means stability with many people to work with who are dependable, and respectful bosses who actually care about the employees instead of favoring people who have been there longer. I am so sick of all the everyday bull. I don't like it anymore and it is making me lose my appetite. Nobody deserves to be put through this. I understand that it is like this at a lot of places and I don't want to deal with it anymore. I am stuck at this job because it pays well and I need to help my family who has done so much for me - for now I am staying there for them. I will probably apply to/work at a different job in the same company soon because I deserve happiness and respect, not anxiety/dread from what should be a place to look forward to spending a majority of my time. It's too bad because I really liked working there in the past, and look forward to seeing certain people, oh well. If any of you are in a similar situation or have any good advice, let me know. I appreciate it. Thank you.

7 Comments

Welcome To..

Jun 13, 2019 at 10:55am

LIFE

Permission Granted

Jun 13, 2019 at 12:45pm

To start looking for another job.
... Is that what you wanted?

Original poster

Jun 13, 2019 at 4:45pm

I have decided to stay at my job for now because I am going on vacation in a few weeks and hopefully things will improve while I'm gone since I'm very efficient and things won't go as smoothly without me. I am one of the youngest people at my work and have a high responsibility. I really care about the work I do and the people's lives I'm helping/impacting, and will ignore the negative aspects of it for now, trying to stop putting unnecessary pressure on myself.

Plus I look forward to seeing my work crush sometimes. He probably thinks I'm a jerk because I quickly looked away and was too scared to say hi last week because of my anxiety/personal issues, so it seemed like I ignored him but I really didn't want to. I said hi in the past until that one time. I have social anxiety so don't take it personally. He probably hates me or doesn't care/remember. Whatever. The people who know me know how awkward I can be. XD

That’s life

Jun 13, 2019 at 5:53pm

You will move on. They will survive. Maybe they might even hire 2 people to do your job, same as they did when I quit my old job after working 10-12 hours for 5 years doing a 2-person job.

So many thoughts

Jun 13, 2019 at 9:41pm

I’ve been working for 30+ years, so I have thoughts.

1) Being overloaded is the norm now. Of course your employers don’t want to hire and pay additional workers, when one worker will suffer through it and do it all. The trick is to work smart and figure out shortcuts.
2) You will never fulfill your magical checklist of a perfect job. Believe me, we ALL want high pay, light workload, respectful and hard working colleagues, flex time, upward mobility, recognition, challenging work, zero politics, free food, morally upright company, good leadership, fun culture. But we will NEVER have all those things in one company. We’ll get 3/10 or 6/10 of them at most. And we will stick around until our needs aren’t fulfilled anymore.
3) if I could give any advice, I’d look for allies. They will help you out in the time at your company. They may not be popular. But they’ll make your life easier if you can be friends with them. Forgo the low-value work relationships. That girl who gossips? Ditch her.
4) Express your ideas. There’s nothing more threatening/exhilarating than an employee who comes up with new ideas and courses of action. There’s so much stagnation and mediocrity in offices. Shine bright and set yourself apart.
5) Save money for your future.

I could go on. But it’s an uphill slog, the working life. Make the most of it.

2 things

Jun 14, 2019 at 3:17pm

when you get back from your vacation, no-one will have picked up the slack and they will have left everything for you to do on top your daily responsibilities. enjoy it while you can.
also eliminate "work crush" from your vocabulary. it never ends well.

Original poster

Jun 14, 2019 at 5:22pm

Thank you for the advice everyone. My work crush doesn't work with me, he works in the same building and we work for different companies so it's fine. I am filled with social anxiety so I will probably be single forever lol. Today at work things improved a bit so hopefully they will be okay next week. Any ideas for an affordable/fun vacation that's good to go to in July?