30+ years left give or takeposted July 22nd, 2019 at 3:15 PM 1/2 a year in and 1'm starting to worry marriage is basically just arguing about how to cook the potato croquettes while I secretly reminisce about the sex I used to have with the FWB, and then one day I die. Show 12 Comments 12 Comments Post a Comment Yikes!Jul 22, 2019 at 7:00pmAlways so relieved to be merrily single when I read a post like this Time is slipping away.Jul 22, 2019 at 7:23pmWe get up, go to work and buy things. Credit cards, lines of credit and car payments for something the at depreciates the moment you drive it off the lot and people are ridiculed for having a "mid life crises". Who's really pathetic? Not the person having the "mid life crises". Maybe not 30 yearsJul 22, 2019 at 10:41pmFrom the sounds of it your marriage isn’t likely to last another 3 years, let alone 30. Maybe you should decide what you truly want out of life before you throw away any more of it. marriageJul 23, 2019 at 6:05amis overrated as louis ck saidJul 23, 2019 at 6:25amuntil you have kids marriage is just dating. you could just leave.i thought kids and a house would finally maker her happy. never did. then i was stuck.if you have a doubt, get out. is my advice. Freedom 55 ManJul 23, 2019 at 11:33amStarts today.No matter what your age is.All you have is today and a hope that tomorrow might come.Make Today really count.Cause its scary out there.Zombies Coming. lol @Freedom 55 ManJul 23, 2019 at 1:08pmThe only time is now.They want to make you live in the past and the future, fill your brain with nonsense.The past is gone. The future hasn't arrived. The only time is now. @@ freedom 55Jul 23, 2019 at 2:12pmSo Who's they ? LolAnd I'm down with your philosophy.I've Heard of it, and I'm trying to live that way myself..So whats your big plan for today (Now),You ever built a treehouse before? !Jul 23, 2019 at 5:50pmPersonally I prefer living on my own, but what you describe sounds normal.It's not that marriage sucks; people just have unrealistic expectations. First time?Jul 23, 2019 at 8:44pmMarriage is a contract, and a legal status. That's why you need a license and a ritual, and other people involved, and expenses, and documents, and maybe lawyers (later, one hopes).Relationships and love are something else, and sex is yet another thing.@! is right about the expectation bit. Thus why it's good to cohabitate for a few years. If you haven't dumped or killed each other in that time, marriage may make sense.Or it may not. Consult your lawyer, financial planner and accountant. And maybe also your therapist.A trial period is critical, much like that for a job or any other "tenure track". Except even more important for relationships. Optimal fit not guaranteed, nor reasonable to assume.The "honeymoon" phase is so named for good reasons. LOAD MORE Join the Discussion Your name Comment * your name What's your name?