The fear of getting close

I'm in the best relationship of my life. My partner is super supporting and kind, but I'm also so terrified to let them get close to me. There's so much going on right now and I'm still too scared to let them know about it.

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The Shadow

Jul 13, 2019 at 1:54pm

They who hold out, will keep holding out.
A bad and persistent habit. And a manipulative asshole power move. And yes, it's usually driven by fear of some kind.
People like this are not to be trusted. Better to avoid. I hope this person finds out that you've held back. And then dumps you, never to trust you again.

A Turtle

Jul 13, 2019 at 3:33pm

It's great you've found yourself in the best relationship. I'm not sure what or why you are afraid of telling your partner that you love the support and kindness they show you. Perhaps there's too much going on in your life right now and you want to let things settle for a while and let your fears cool off. It seems like a waste not to put words to love and tell them that you appreciate their qualities. Relationships can be incredibly rewarding and it is your will and theirs together that will shape your relationship. I think that if you love the kindness and support your partner gives you, you should let them know and keep fostering those qualities in your relationship. It sounds like you've found something that adds a lot to your life and I hope it keeps working out for you. Don't let your fears control you! There are some good reasons to be afraid of certain things, but there are also infinite reasons we can invent for ourselves to be afraid of harmless or rewarding things (phobia). You just have to realize the extent that you are the subject but also author of those reasons. Sounds like you've found a good chunk of happiness, good for you!!

Freak

Jul 16, 2019 at 1:46pm

So lying was the only hope for contact. Cannot blame anyone for keeping their distance. Since learned to stay clear and stick to taps

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