I just found out that the father of my unborn child (who claims very much to be straight) was screwing my gay friend during the beginning of our relationship.. I don't know how I feel about it.. I'm so confused and hurt. Don't even know what to say.. What a twist.


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Flip side

Jul 19, 2019 at 12:04pm

Sorry you're going through this.
I'm in screwy place right now. I got married early, with a large part being to appease my family (religious and ethnic reasons). I thought I could bury my urges but I fell for a close friend. After getting out some "frustrations", he moved away and I thought it was all behind me. Years later I fell for a guy at work, but I was committed to making babies (plus all the family obligations), and I had to get rid of him when my wife got suspicious. A few kids later and I can't get him out of my head, but I can't leave my family. The obstacle centres on money so I don't lose the kids. Neither of us would've acted on it out of respect for the marriage, but I wanted him badly. I still do. Until I figure out how , I choose to remain in my marriage.
Maybe he got it out of his system and he's chosen you? How long have you been together? How close are you? How did you find out? Did you two talk?

Identifies as straight

Jul 19, 2019 at 1:15pm

Lots of people have secret lives and he wants to follow the norm and have a family

I know who can fix this

Jul 19, 2019 at 3:11pm

Jerry Springer

or perhaps Maury Povich.


Jul 19, 2019 at 3:13pm

Are you sure he's gay? Could he just be bisexual? In any case, cheating is cheating.


Jul 19, 2019 at 5:36pm

there are no genders anymore....just be happy.

OP @ Flip side

Jul 19, 2019 at 6:57pm

We are no longer together. Things were very rocky and he made my pregnancy a living hell. Always accusing me of cheating while he was at work when I was sick as a dog in bed with very severe morning sickness day and night. The list goes on. It was an emotionally abusive relationship that I'm glad to be out of but it's sad because I wanted us to be a family.

I found out from a mutual friend.. I've been sworn to secrecy which is killing me because I'd like to confront them both but to be fair we weren't technically together at the time it was literally right at the beginning of our relationship, a little bit before actually. Jokes on me then but I wish my gay friend would have told me hey, he's bisexual or gay. I wouldn't have been interested anymore and it would have saved me a lot of emotional distress. Don't get me wrong I can't wait to meet my baby soon but I wouldn't be pregnant now if I knew sooner that he had screwed a guy in the ass the same night he also had sex with me... Pretty disgusting in my opinion. I'd really like to not believe it but unfortunately I do.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. That has to be rough basically living a lie like that. It's sad really.. hopefully some day you can find peace. Sending good vibes your way.

Oh just stop it

Jul 19, 2019 at 8:28pm

You don't know how to feel about it because you're not them ! Stop pretending to be someone else and playing with their minds troll.

And the moral is....

Jul 19, 2019 at 8:55pm

Know the people you are fucking. If you don’t want to have a baby with them and be connected to them forever, don’t fuck them.


Jul 20, 2019 at 7:25am

people usually screw other people in one way or another.
It may have been good to find out now rather than later.
But the up-side may be now is a break to move on to better things.


Jul 20, 2019 at 8:04am

Ever hear of birth control?

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