I have feelings for one of my friends but I can tell they're not into me that way. I tried to get over that and I'm realizing that although we are similar in a lot of our hang ups, it's not the only way I'd like for us to connect. However, connecting on shared pain has brought about a lot of positive changes for me. I want to connect to them on a little bit of a calmer and happier level. I want to just hang out and do something fun but they usually say no if I ask them to hang out. They only seem to want to hang out on their terms, or in a group, hence my feeling that they want to avoid anything sexy. My confession is that I feel confused on how to communicate. I want to be honest but I'm also just thinking of drifting away for some space. I don't think it would be wise to confess that I'd like to go on a date with them. I think at the heart of it I want to date them and I don't know if I can get beyond the feelings of that for some reason. I have tried my best to get past that but it only subsides when I spend time away from them.