It happens

So I’m a guy in my late 30’s and I’m having intimacy Issues which led to the break up of the girl i was seeing. Now I did know this was a problem before I started dating her I had not had sex in a long time and a hook up I tried went terribly wrong. But being a man I just tried to push it aside which doesn’t work. So now I’m single cos of it and pushed myself to taking about this with friends /opening up about this and it really does help, so if you’re going though the same thing as me because it can’t be just me, I’m not not special have the fucking balls to talk about it. it helps believe me

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Glad you have this attitude

Aug 15, 2019 at 8:08pm

This ideally would not be a reason to break up, someone who cares enough would support you in resolving this.

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Aug 16, 2019 at 3:09am

I appreciate a guy opening up about this. I've got trust issues and haven't had sex in years due to PTSD, and sex being painful and just not bothered. It's tough... and it's good you have supportive people to hear you.

I've been in therapy for years and tried some pelvic therapy but it was triggering. It's hard when you want a connection but also have issues that make it difficult to do so. You're not alone and it's good you're trying to encourage others with your story. So many of us suffer in silence.

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Aug 16, 2019 at 3:51am

...but i'll just say lay off the porn, makes a huge difference

Super common

Aug 16, 2019 at 5:14am

Good for you. Intimacy issues are super common and at least you’re aware of it. My last boyfriend could only let me in so far and I tried to talk to him, but it got me nowhere; and I loved and really cared about him. There’s the quote that goes something like ‘People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves’. Also counselling is good to uncover stuff you never really knew was connected to the blocks, opening up to the support of friends to listen and validate is great, but they may not be able to work as deeply to heal the what’s going on.

Sure its

Aug 16, 2019 at 12:40pm

Probably just you need to get back on the old horse again , So you fell off
get back on again...
Like Riding a bike.
You don't forget how.
Just need a Caring ,Trusting peson to open that door up again.
Its never really closed is it? lol

Intimacy Issues?

Aug 17, 2019 at 1:07am

More like trust issues,which is a good thing for men, seeing the current state of dating and society.
Affairs are encouraged, women programmed to leave ("strong and independent") at a moments notice, and penalties on men for any break up.

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