Just because I'm an overweight, single, middle-aged woman with feminist/humanist ideals doesn't make me a lesbian. I don't understand why I get mislabelled so frequently. So, what - if I'm not attached to a man by a certain age, I must be gay? What if I'm divorced? Widowed? Is it my weight? I consider myself an LGBTTQ ally so it's less about the 'lesbian' aspect and more about the assumptions people make, with little or no thought or evidence, that annoys me.