Internet singles match making

I ventured forth and posted my self on a dating site for post 60 yrs. My profile was painfully honest, although my picture was 6 years old. I have had coffee with four ladies, whose pictures were at least 20 years out of date ??? Nice ladies but everyone was obsessed with bucket list world travel desires...and also an obsession with yoga or "adventure sports" What happened to honesty and realistic expectations ? I guess I will stick to the library or a seniors club to meet someone, who is up front..honest.


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Sep 11, 2019 at 3:52am

You sound like a naive doofus- Rent a hooker.


Sep 11, 2019 at 7:11am

Is a crap shoot.
You never know if the person is protraying themselves honestly.
Who's really on the other end of that connection, as you found out.
Wise Décision!

I had the same experience

Sep 11, 2019 at 7:49am

I’m in my late 50’s and only 1 lady I met used an up to date photo for her profile.
One lady even used her friend’s pic!!!
I thought at my age people wouldn’t be into games but I was sadly mistaken.

I was single and lonely for a long time

Sep 11, 2019 at 9:10am

Then one day I was so despondent and sad i was crying and had an OBE. I went deeper into myself than i had ever done and instinctually called out for help to (__________ fill in whatever anthropomorphic name of the Great Spirit works for you). That night I dreamed of a woman and a few days later she walked into my place of business. We've been together many years and it's been life uplifting. Never had an argument. I am very thankful to ( _______________ same as above )

Talk about unrealistic expectations...

Sep 11, 2019 at 10:27am

Did you meet with a 60 year old senior and expect that she'd look like a 40 year old? Or did you specifically target younger women and was shocked they are seniors just like you? Perhaps the women should have put more recent pictures but I think you're the one with unrealistic expectations here. Obsessed with bucket lists? What's wrong wit yoga, adventure and travel? Is that considered unrealistic too? Because they are pretty common hobbies around here, and the women were being honest with their interests. Unlike you, who met with them despite having no interests whatsoever in travelling or adventure. The women were upfront with what they're looking for, if that's not what you want, then don't waste their time. You're responsible for your own dating failures.

Elena Mountain

Sep 11, 2019 at 11:18am

I hear you. As a sixty-ish straight female I also find it hard to meet people who could be friends or companions. Even making new female friends is difficult as many just want to talk about themselves. Listening and communicating is a two way affair and a skill many are incapable of. I have never posted online and do not sign-up for "dating" sites as I prefer the real world over a digital one. Perhaps we will meet sometime in the non-virtual world.


Sep 11, 2019 at 12:10pm

How come you're going after someone out of your league? Just stick to your own league and you'll have no problems with dating.


Sep 11, 2019 at 2:27pm

Honesty and dating sites (and apps) are polar opposites. I would recommend trying to meet women organically (i.e. in person).


Sep 12, 2019 at 11:48am

You’ll find a nice lady don’t give up :)

@talk about

Sep 12, 2019 at 1:26pm

It is quite common for people to look younger than they are.

And yeah, why wouldn't he expect them to look like they're in their 40s if that's what their profile picture looks like. That's kind of how profile pictures work. You put up a picture of yourself that, you know, looks like you, and that's what people expect you to look like.

And there's nothing wrong with adventure and travel. But I totally get what the OP is saying, cuz its disappointing for me too. Women nowadays seem to have traveling as a pre requisite when it comes to who they'll date. I don't expect women I date to be avid hockey fans. Why can't you just travel with your friends and then when you get back we'll go for hikes and watch movies and play board games and do all the other things we have in common. And I think it makes sense that someone who's in his 60's, possibly approaching 70, might have other things he wants to spend his remaining energy on.

And how was he not honest with them. They met, they told him their interests, he told them his (I assume), it wasn't a match, and he didnt see them again. Where Is he not being honest?

Kind of a long rant defending somebody else's confession, but what the guy said kinda resonated with me, and I'm only in my 30's, so it made wonder if all I've got to look forward to is the same old, same old.

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