Intrusive negative memories

I can't stop them from popping up. Memories of exes from relationships that hurt me. Not always positive, but sometimes positive; not always negatives, but sometimes negative. Times I felt lost and alone and utterly confused. Times I just didn't understand why they seemed to not care if we were together. I just can't get away from the memories, after all this time. I guess I feel like I was treated unfairly. But that isn't fair or right because it doesn't matter how they treated me - because they aren't in my life anymore. Because they weren't good for me and I wasn't good for them (okay, okay, I'm assuming on this one). I just wish I could get them out of my head. I don't regret the relationships, I think. Life isn't fair and life is often painful. But I just wish these memories would stay in the past.

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Tubular Bells

Sep 23, 2019 at 10:37pm

Won't just stop on their own: you got to MAKE 'em stop!

Anonymous

Sep 23, 2019 at 10:46pm

Sounds to me like this OP gave it away a little too easily.

Don’t let the past follow you

Sep 23, 2019 at 10:46pm

Memories are like TV channels. Just change the channel and watch something new instead of reruns.

meh

Sep 23, 2019 at 10:47pm

I can keep my previous relationships out of my head just fine, but it's the relationship I DIDN'T have that I can never forget.

Lolabear

Sep 23, 2019 at 11:14pm

As hard as it may seem, try and focus on living in the present, not the past. Try to practice controlling your emotions and thoughts, and become the master of your universe.

Perhaps...

Sep 24, 2019 at 5:39am

You'll have to go make some new memories with someone to replace the old.

Well

Sep 24, 2019 at 5:44am

Maybe this is what you deserve for your bad behaviour. Your guilt will grow and grow and GROW, GROW

Until.....

Bye bye

I share the same affliction with you

Sep 24, 2019 at 10:28am

And it’s not fun is it.
The old saying, “We’re done with the past but the past isn’t done with us.”
Try exercise, lots of long walks with deep breathing helps me a lot.
Good luck!

You need closure

Sep 24, 2019 at 12:03pm

You didn't get proper face-to-face closure. Until you do, this will always remain.

@well

Sep 24, 2019 at 12:26pm

Ew.

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