Intrusive negative memories
posted September 23rd, 2019 at 8:50 PM
I can't stop them from popping up. Memories of exes from relationships that hurt me. Not always positive, but sometimes positive; not always negatives, but sometimes negative. Times I felt lost and alone and utterly confused. Times I just didn't understand why they seemed to not care if we were together. I just can't get away from the memories, after all this time. I guess I feel like I was treated unfairly. But that isn't fair or right because it doesn't matter how they treated me - because they aren't in my life anymore. Because they weren't good for me and I wasn't good for them (okay, okay, I'm assuming on this one).
I just wish I could get them out of my head. I don't regret the relationships, I think. Life isn't fair and life is often painful. But I just wish these memories would stay in the past.
19 Comments
Post a CommentTubular Bells
Sep 23, 2019 at 10:37pm
Won't just stop on their own: you got to MAKE 'em stop!
Anonymous
Sep 23, 2019 at 10:46pm
Sounds to me like this OP gave it away a little too easily.
Don’t let the past follow you
Sep 23, 2019 at 10:46pm
Memories are like TV channels. Just change the channel and watch something new instead of reruns.
meh
Sep 23, 2019 at 10:47pm
I can keep my previous relationships out of my head just fine, but it's the relationship I DIDN'T have that I can never forget.
Lolabear
Sep 23, 2019 at 11:14pm
As hard as it may seem, try and focus on living in the present, not the past. Try to practice controlling your emotions and thoughts, and become the master of your universe.
Perhaps...
Sep 24, 2019 at 5:39am
You'll have to go make some new memories with someone to replace the old.
Well
Sep 24, 2019 at 5:44am
Maybe this is what you deserve for your bad behaviour. Your guilt will grow and grow and GROW, GROW
Until.....
Bye bye
I share the same affliction with you
Sep 24, 2019 at 10:28am
And it’s not fun is it.
The old saying, “We’re done with the past but the past isn’t done with us.”
Try exercise, lots of long walks with deep breathing helps me a lot.
Good luck!
You need closure
Sep 24, 2019 at 12:03pm
You didn't get proper face-to-face closure. Until you do, this will always remain.
@well
Sep 24, 2019 at 12:26pm
Ew.
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