passive aggression

the moment friends start posting vague emotional messages or TMI on Facebook or other mediums, I lose all respect for them and I no longer consider them actual friends. Real friends communicate when there is a problem and not that sort of childish garbage. It's one thing to say "I need help." It's another to say things like "well, I guess no one likes me" or "here I am alone again" or "my friends let me down today"... it's immature and off putting. Bottom line, friends aren't mind readers, if you are upset, you need to talk to them.

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Lol sure

Oct 17, 2019 at 4:40pm

Yeah, that's all fine if you're actually on their friends list, and not some estranged love interest that stalks their profile ;)

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not that sort of childish garbage.

Oct 17, 2019 at 7:43pm

But you're on Facebook.

Isn't that like complaining about eggs at a chicken farm.

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That’s right

Oct 17, 2019 at 9:18pm

How the hell can you know what’s wrong without a chance to fix it!

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Lololol

Oct 17, 2019 at 9:28pm

You mean like exactly what you've done here???
Lololol

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Uvcoarse

Oct 18, 2019 at 12:51am

Compassion rules. There are always 2 sides. Or more. In alternate universes. Xo

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Interesting

Oct 18, 2019 at 10:04am

I would have agreed with the statement my WHOLE LIFE, until a few hours ago.

When I posted something short but emotional and vague. I did this because I can't and don't want to say on a public forum what exactly happened. But I DO want people to know I'm not ok. AND I DO what someone to comment or get in touch. Everyone who knows what is happening to me is not a part of my problem. I also don't expect them to care. But posting that 1st (and hopefully last) message on SM. It made me understand that sadness is can be an abyss of heartache that you have no control over and no outlet, but you just need to get it out there.

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Complexity

Oct 18, 2019 at 2:03pm

A lot of these types of problems exist because people don't understand how complex we are and can be as humans, especially those who are in touch with deeper layers. Things don't have to take on a bent-out-of-shape meaning but it seems like they often do. Someone posting something on FB, or IG doesn't have to be interpreted with such depth. It could be a fleeting thought or feeling for the day, hour, minute even...People attach so much weight to everything that these minute expressions of the human mind take on so much more than they should, or are meant to. Get a grip people. They are not your friend anymore? Because they expressed something that you have taken personally? I hope you removed them from your friends list then. Cuz if you don't consider them a friend anymore, and someone you have lost all respect for, then I would hope you would unfriend them. If not, that makes you a hypocrite...criticizing them for passive aggression...what is your post then?

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Im sorry to say

Oct 18, 2019 at 4:24pm

Its sounds like those people were never really your friends.
Im glad you have reailzed that and moved on.
New Day Dawns My Friend:)

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Friend, my ass

Oct 18, 2019 at 6:25pm

If you were any kind of friend you would ask them what happened to make them feel that way. You would lend them a shoulder to cry on, and take a moment to comfort them, rather than kick them right after someone else obviously did. It doesn't take a mind reader to know what's wrong with them by what they said.

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@friend my ass

Oct 19, 2019 at 10:53am

Exactly!

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