A lie by omission....

....is still a lie. Being evasive and / or unwilling to be open with your partner, invites suspicion into the relationship, and that’s the beginning of the end. I just don’t trust him, even though he’s not given me any real evidence that he’s being unfaithful. It’s just this gut feeling that if he had nothing to hide he wouldn’t be so evasive and secretive. Without trust there’s really no point in continuing, and I’m sadly coming to the conclusion that I’ve got to end this.

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Do you...

Nov 22, 2019 at 10:22am

... want to know the secret of having a faithful husband who won't cheat? You pick a guy who couldn't, who works hard, who is punctual, all that boring shit. But, you know, he won't be the sort of man that every woman wants, so, you, being a woman (I presume), probably aren't interested in a guy like that. You know, everyone wants a Ferrari if they can have it, who wants some junker?

I mean, sure, end it, but in future, think about why you wouldn't just pick a man who you know will be faithful because he won't have the capacity to cheat?

Junker

Nov 22, 2019 at 11:00am

I have the faithful, never would cheat, husband. He is boring when I’m bored with myself or annoyed with myself. If you have a feeling someone is lying, and you don’t get that feeling with other folks you’ve been with, then you probably are onto something. I think you are saving yourself a world of pain by knowing that you need to be with someone who is open and up front. It sounds like you trust yourself and you are honest with yourself.

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@do you

Nov 22, 2019 at 11:02am

Why would you assume that the person I’m referring to isn’t a hard-working punctual person? Those attributes have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with whether or not someone is trustworthy in a relationship. You sound like one of those guys who constantly post about how unattractive men are the “nice guys”, and that argument also has no basis in fact. Too many assumptions by far.

Talk is cheap

Nov 22, 2019 at 12:37pm

See with your eyes.
THEY NEVER LIE.
People love to talk Smack:)

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The power of lies

Nov 22, 2019 at 1:28pm

Do not underestimate the ability of smart but dishonest people to lie. I dated a girl for almost 2 years before I twigged to the fact that her too-close friendship with her male best friend was actually an open marriage that they were both keeping secret. She was the smartest person I ever met. She had the ability to keep multiple stories straight in her head to maintain all the different lies that she told different people.
Also be wary of people who become defensive and try to turn their misdeeds into something that is your fault. This is a tactic to misdirect you when you get too close to discovering the truth behind their lies.

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Watch out

Nov 22, 2019 at 1:43pm

Ever think you’re looking to much into nothing? Most men don’t talk that much about really anything. If this guy isn’t answering all your questions maybe It’s because he is seeing into your head and is trying to get out of the situation too

gut feeling

Nov 22, 2019 at 4:30pm

lol. good luck with that. I am over 35 years old and 100% of single moms I date say the same 3 things, the dad(s) were/are deadbeats, abusive, cheaters.
I have yet to meet any woman in years without the same story. So yeah... good luck with that

Benefit of the doubt

Nov 22, 2019 at 4:36pm

Maybe he's just planning a surprise birthday, or trip to someplace tropical for your Christmas present? Think positive, but if he's not, then kick the cheater to the curb.

You got it!

Nov 22, 2019 at 5:54pm

Run and never look back. Intuition never falters. You don't need senseless suffering when you have the most trustworthy powerful guide within. That guy assumes/projects/rages..about everything. I'm surprised your reply to him made it through.

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Run

Nov 22, 2019 at 7:01pm

I was obliviously married to a man who Never didn’t lie to me - but had an affair - he held on to a ridiculous notion that he never lied - but was on the phone with her the second I walked out the door to go to work, for a run, to my yoga class - and He was with her every chance he had. And looking back, I knew something wasn’t right. If you don’t have kids or a whole bunch of financial stuff to unpack, I say run. If you do have kids and financial stuff, it’s worth giving it 6 months, on your rules - no secrecy, no bs, no burner phones - Even then it isn’t easy.

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