The amount of times I hear people say "I'd never put my parent in a home" makes me sad, mad, and exhausted, all at the same time. We never thought we'd have to make that choice, either. What people don't realize is that there is an end to the road of at-home caretaking, for SO MANY PEOPLE. Whether it's because they can't afford in home care 24/7, they can't afford to *quit* their jobs because they want to be the 24/7 caregiver, or they can't change diapers on an 80 year old, or their parent doesn't know them (or seem to like them!) anymore, or whatever. WE HAD NO FUCKING IDEA how life would take such a crazy, painful, horrible turn for the worst. We had no idea that the person who loved and cared for us our whole lives became a dead weight that took 3 people simply move from a bed to a chair. Try doing that at home without a bed, or a lift, or a wheelchair, or superhuman strength. So if you don't know, just keep the thoughts to yourself. You won't know until it happens to you.