the male gaze

I want to be a good man. I try to avoid watching porn and keep my dirty thoughts in check. But when I see a woman in skin-tight yoga pants I find it so hard to not check out their bum.

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The female gaze

Dec 10, 2019 at 6:15pm

Y’know I’m totally guilty of it too. Bodies are fascinating and when someone’s physique is well displayed I start to wonder - is your body built this way naturally? Was there a particular workout or sport that does this to you? What does mine look like? Could I look like that too?

Well sure Angela

Dec 10, 2019 at 7:15pm

why not.

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Cameltoe Annie

Dec 10, 2019 at 7:27pm

No. Spandex hiked up your ass or your front-bum is not a good look. I've always found this new yoga pants and leggings obsession to be revolting. Its slobwear that's akin to men going around everywhere in sweatpants. Its just lazy.

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How can you not?

Dec 10, 2019 at 9:33pm

It’s pretty hard to miss
I agree with Annie though. I find yoga pants to be lazy dressing, and maybe somewhat low class. One of the few instances where one can say, if you don’t like the attention you’re getting maybe try dressing differently. Even though it’s delightful most of the time, I feel like a perv for checking it out

Anonymous

Dec 10, 2019 at 9:47pm

Move to Europe where everyone checks one another out. Not including Scandinavia, Germany or the UK, they're pretty passionless like people here.

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Human gaze

Dec 11, 2019 at 2:06am

We’re wired to appreciate the form of other attractive humans. The idea isn’t to stop looking or to feel guilty about wanting to, it’s to do it discreetly so as to ensure the other person is either unaware of it, or is not made to feel uncomfortable. Also, try to have enough class to not be gawking at another woman while you’re with one already, and (this should be obvious) definitely do NOT gawk at all in a work environment.

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Don't sweat it

Dec 11, 2019 at 6:29am

beauty is meant to be appreciated.

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What’s good

Dec 11, 2019 at 8:44am

I’m a woman, and I would never define a “good man” as someone who doesn’t watch porn or check out women. With porn, you just have to acknowledge what you’re seeing is not reality, and make sure your watching habits don’t screw up your own interactions. Enjoying female beauty is also 100% okay in my eyes, as long as you’re not leering or worse, making comments about strangers out loud.

You do not have to deny your humanness to be a good human being, as long as you’re respectful and self-aware.

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Discretion

Dec 11, 2019 at 9:11am

Pretty simple. Be discreet, be respectful. You can look at someone in appreciation without them really noticing. That's the polar opposite of blatantly *talking to the boobs* or leering directly at someone.

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Morrie

Dec 11, 2019 at 11:52am

Me too, but I admit I love seeing women going braless with thin or scanty tops in the summer. Love to see those nipples!

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