Just did it in fact. Not for the first time either. Maybe we’re talking about the same guy lol. The situation sounds exactly like mine. Except in my case it went on repeatedly for a very long time. I apparently I’m a slow learner, or perhaps I’m just incredibly dogged when it comes to something I really want. This guy I’m referring to though is clearly not ever going to change. Although this last time I could see improvement in some ways, he still showed little or no comprehension about real reciprocal behaviour. He still expected to be able to take and take with very little giving on his part, and when this was pointed out to him he simply didn’t get it. It’s exhausting being with someone like that. I hope you’re smarter than I was and don’t fall into his trap again when he comes looking for you again. I’ve learned that it’s a typical pattern of people who behave that way. As for me, this last time really was the last time.

Life is a game of choices, make the best ones and ye shall be rewarded. Although this is not always true is it, I believe it's because life is basically a lesson the chaos theory or what will be will be. Chaos because we are, what spinning at like 11,000 mph stuck deep in a gravity well in the middle of a shooting gallery. The latter those previous two makes more sense, sure right it has it's own plans but they rarely line up with people's. We can fix this to a point, better odds if you will. I'm tried of living this way, I was basically sticking around for the purpose of not running off on something. Like you though she's gone and I'm ready to try and find my way. Increase my odds of doing better just simply by living better. I have no shot at the so called normal life, I never ever fit in there. So I have to find a way to make it work in the life I know and always have. I doubt this is her, that OP was talking to me. I've never seen my person actually vulnerable. I cut her off before that could happen, still thank you! You have been paying attention because my piece was pretty spot on, hers would have most likely also ended with a *sigh* I'm not sure where it is from here but for now I am a little stuck because of some bad choices. I plan on steering far clear of my person, we are very bad for each other it seems and still I can not help but feel very deep loving feelings for her. I want her to spread her wings and fly like an Angel is all.

I would say it's you, if all your part was done silently and left to me to watch and figure out. Still it reads a lot like her Charlie Chaplin piece. How can a man in today's world ever take a chance on reading non verbal ques. He runs a risk of being listed and arrested, no? Anyways

Arrested? Just don't pull out your wang and you should be ok. Tough one, huh?

Genius right... he didn't come looking for you did he? So A typical maybe. Wow your unreal you know, but I still love you babe!

Been in that situation. Don't cast pearls before swine. They'll trample on them every time.

Three times a week. Ocd much?

I'm wondering can you give us a view of your mind's eye view of the paragraph " By the time they did, I got crumbs in return for the huge amount of effort spent trying to overcome their suspicions that I wasn't sincere." I ask because it may be of some relevance to my situation, ya know possibly or possibly not? Thank you and if not I'll understand.

~News Flash!~ the same situations can happen to multiple people. You’re assuming it’s the same person posting, but when you consider how many people are on here, maybe you should also consider the concept that you might be wrong.

Fear kills love. It stops us from speaking the words, “I really like you. I feel there’s something between us. Do you like me too?” For anyone with abandonment issues, an attachment disorder or anxiety, the fear of rejection can be so strong that declaring interest can be paralyzing.

For some it’s even worse. Those with a history of abandonment or abuse who, after being vulnerable and bonding, are then betrayed by a love. If that happens, we begin to feel like we cannot even speak the words, “I like you”. We feel that rejection is inevitable. We become hopelessly lost in a belief that no one could ever love us. So we ruin it before it can begin. We make our own pain before another can.

If you love a person - really - you accept them for who they are. You do not seek to change them. If you love a person, you do not tally their declarations of love against yours. It’s not commerce or competition. She didn’t answer my text, so I’m out. Really?

Love is patience and compassion and being the person the other needs you to be to feel safe, seen and respected. If you can’t do that, you don’t deserve this person. And as you clearly know this person has abandonment issues, why the fuck can you not say that you’re committed to trying, at their pace, in hope of more.