not good enough for this city

Don't know what it takes to be liked and accepted... Feel like i'm always just trying to make friends, be with a better group, be more well-rounded.. but nobody really wants to hang out with me... how do i make friends that like me for me?


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Nothing personal

Jan 23, 2020 at 8:26am

Google "Seattle Freeze". A real thing.
What you're feeling is similar but more severe: the Vancouver Glaciation. A socioeconomic offshoot of the climatological Fraser Glaciation. Appears to be permanent, or at least very long-term.
If you stay, you'll internalize this and make it about you. At some expense to your mental health. You main options are acceptance, suffering, or my recommended option - departure.
This is the second most-unaffordable place on earth. Not a new thing, either. Pervasive financial insecurity, increasing downward economic mobility, ostentatious wealth, status competition and unbounded "densification", do not a happy society make. Also, mental illness is highly correlated with population density, and BC got over 34,000 new residents just in the last quarter of 2019.
Go where people have retained more of their humanity. It's a big planet.

Get Out

Jan 23, 2020 at 9:44am

Seriously you need to leave this city if you want to meet fun and friendly ppl. Highly unlikely to find here.

not you

Jan 23, 2020 at 10:08am

friends of over a decade do the same to me

Good one

Jan 23, 2020 at 10:48am

How does one ?
Does it really matter at this point ?
Just be youself.
Like your own company..
I do
Barrel of dancing monkeys.
I am

You don't

Jan 23, 2020 at 12:02pm

You make friends who like you for what you bring to their lives as easier ways to be lazy. If your good looking another good looking woman will pretend to like you, and average looking is the go boy/girl. Real friends do not exist. Those days are gone a friend that gives you the benefit of the doubt and forgives they be gone replaced by perfect people who never make any thing like a mistake. enjoy good luck

Cold, cold city

Jan 23, 2020 at 12:59pm

Vancouver is full of snobs, cliques and there’s just an unpleasant vibe.
Physically a gorgeous city but the inhabitants are an odd lot.


Jan 23, 2020 at 1:36pm

be you. your people will find you when you've stopped trying to be what you think others want you to be.

Take up...

Jan 23, 2020 at 2:26pm

Lawn Bowling.


Jan 23, 2020 at 2:30pm

Whining and complaining is not going to help.


Jan 23, 2020 at 3:57pm

I recommend joining rec sports or some kind of activity thing. It's the easiest way to get van folks to commit to something!

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