...I would at least purchase and prepare a lovely, home-cooked meal, complete with wine.

what a rude guest. 3 nights in a Vancouver hotel is $$$. I hope they cleaned after themselves too.

I have a friend who comes visit a few times a year. Never pays for a thing and I usually end up treating for meals out or at best they will pay for themselves. Certainly not the way I was raised but some people are just clueless....or cheap.

I've had a lot of friends stay with me over the years. Have made use of some couches and spare rooms myself, too.

I've never had the expectation of having a friend buy me dinner in exchange for a place to stay. I would rather they have a comfortable experience where they can go about their day however they want and don't have to worry about spending extra money.

Also, having no expectations of an exchange lowers the demand on me to be the "perfect host" (I don't always like the pressure of cooking meals for people, for example) and generally makes things more light and casual for all involved.

Australia is burning (and BC may be next), a plane load of people just got shot down in Iran, children are starving, and Donald Trump is president, and this is your biggest worry? Some people are inconsiderate, some aren't. Get over it. Enjoy life while you can. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Have a heart. Maybe his old friend is broke af.
Wouldn't it be amazing if an old friend of yours took you in for three days and didn't ask you for money or food? Especially in Vancouver, where even the hostels are pricey and usually full.
The friend didn't stay long enough for it to be a doormat situation. Hopefully he did dishes, said please and thank you, and was a conscientious guest while he was there.
Have a little compassion and put others ahead of yourself every once in a while - you never know when you might need to be on the receiving end of kindness.

People are broke and will gladly use up as many of your resources with your permission. Best course of action is to be cheap because no one wants to spend money on others. I’ve been generous in the past, buying souvenirs, drinks, meals, doing the driving in my car, but clearly everyone loves a free unreciprocated ride so the taps have been shut and you’re all on your own now. More $ for me again.

I agree with you. SO many people take advantage of others now. It's so sad. I have had friends that are just around when they need something, then BAM gone. Friendship and respect is a 2 WAY STREET. Get burned enough times with this and you'll stop being so nice about it.

Yes. People are seriously cheap these days. I understand how expensive things are around here, but I wish my friends and the guy I’m seeing would comprehend that it’s every bit as expensive for me as it is for them! I’m sick of being taken advantage of by cheapskates, and the guy is about to get his cheap ass kicked to the curb.

I agree one hundred percent with you and couldn’t have said that better myself.