Chronically single is my #1 concern

Everyone complains about property prices and cost of living. My only worry is the anomie in Vancouver. It's an anti-social city. Things that help people in their 30s meet, such as bars, do not exist here. If they do exist, it's for groups of 4 and what not. Other cities, you just go to the bar and meet people. If I stay in Vancouver, I will die alone, so I am moving.

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Leaving is an option.

Feb 28, 2020 at 4:46am

Yeah, Vancouver's aloofness has been a topic of conversation for 25 years or as long as I can remember. Vancouver is not a big city, it's a small city with a small town mentality. There's not much culture, not very good nightlife and people tend to carve out a little patch for themselves in the city's stifling social scene and cling to it desperately. Hence, the apprehension that every stranger is some new challenger to their piece of the social strata. Vancouverites, I think, overcompensate for their feelings of insecurity. They think being cold and aloof is how 'it's' done in the big city. However, as anyone who's travelled knows if you're from L.A, New York, or even London you have nothing to prove, no feelings of insecurity and therefore generally much more open to people and new experiences. In closing, it's never going to change. Vancouver grows out, it never grows up. Get it? It's been like this for as long as I can remember.

Yup

Feb 28, 2020 at 5:34am

That's a great idea

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Me too moving

Feb 28, 2020 at 6:24am

Its time.
Its a shame Vancouver is beautiful.

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Interesting...

Feb 28, 2020 at 10:01am

I'm neither rich nor hot-looking, yet I'm able to meet people here.
What am I doing differently from you?

@Interesting...

Feb 28, 2020 at 10:47am

Are you a man?

I agree!

Feb 28, 2020 at 10:54am

Vancouver is a nice place to live...if you're married or in a long-term relationship. I moved here with my wife and things have more or less worked out for us. But being single here? No, thank you! This is the most anti-social city I've ever seen, and I've been to 20 countries. I'm constantly amazed by how few couples I see here compared to other cities. Try Montreal or San Diego. Those are great cities for dating.

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I understand you

Feb 28, 2020 at 11:14am

As someone who have had 5 dates in 8 years I feel the same. Unlike me you can move wherever. I was in common law before the war started in my home country. We split up and I moved to this "great country", "the land of opportunity" ...etc. Now that I'm 30 I realize I will never find an equal to me long term partner and die alone in here in spite of the fact that I have my shit together. I was scammed a long time ago and lost my status. Not a month goes by when I dont wish to have been killed home at war. Tried to commit suicide but survived. After a while I simply accepted things for what they are. Funny thing is the spicies of the opposite sex that I would never look at back home act that they are hot shit or something which is hilarious. So when you are thinking your life is fucked up remember that someone is having it worse than you for sure

@@Interesting

Feb 28, 2020 at 11:30am

Are you ASSuming it makes a difference?
No, what makes a difference is being warm/friendly without be overbearing/creepy/desperate.

Agree

Feb 28, 2020 at 12:46pm

Yes, Vancouver is very cliquish in the gay scene also. They all stand around in their little groups and blather on about nothing.

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@ leaving is an option

Feb 28, 2020 at 1:04pm

So you actually believe that we native Vancouverites are so “insecure” about not being good enough that we’re deliberately being aloof? LOL! First of all, most of the people you’re seeing around town are more than likely to be from somewhere else. Secondly, what on earth makes you think we give a rat’s arse what anyone else thinks of us? I haven’t ever even thought about trying to impress all those “big city folks” (again LOL), by trying to be cool. You’re delusional!

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