I haven't been kissed

or made love to for almost 10 yrs. I'm a female, aged almost 70, divorced 20 yrs. I've met several men who I felt attracted to since my divorce but only one reciprocated and then later admitted that he was still married, not separated as he had led me to believe. The last man I felt something for has just recently made it known that he is a confirmed bachelor after several months of getting to know him and me flirting. I'm an attractive professional woman, fit, kind, funny, and I would like to think somewhat sexy. This last rejection has really left me in a slump and I fear that I will never be with anyone again as I'm not so young anymore. I know there are still other things in life that are fun and lots of people like the single life but I always have been one to like romance and intimacy and it feels pretty empty to think that this might be the end of it for me.

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Interesting narrative

Feb 26, 2020 at 12:18am

Not exactly Jane Austen but interesting. Actually I think your problem can be found in your profile: Kind. Not killer enough hon. You gotta want it baaad in this town- too many introverted mumble-fucks. Neon broadcast is what'll get you noticed! That and ultrabright

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Join the crowd

Feb 26, 2020 at 1:44am

A few of my friends and I were recently talking about this feeling. We’re all between 55 and 70, and we’re all single as well. I’m just out of an unsatisfying relationship with another “confirmed bachelor” which basically meant, in his case anyway, that he wanted to be with me all the time as long as he could do it without any of the normal responsibility towards me that accompanies a committed relationship (not even talking about marriage. We’re feeling like we just don’t have the interest or the energy anymore to bother dealing with the bs that goes along with dating. I personally feel like you in that I still desire intimacy and love, but I can live alone and don’t need a man so much that I’m willing to tolerate being taken advantage of. Some of my friends say they’re so done with a**holes that they’ve totally given up on the entire gender. There are times I feel the same too. It’s scary to think that we might be alone forever, but that’s why it’s so important that we maintain our friendships and keep busy. I’m trying not to lose hope; I hope you have good friends to at least keep you company. Good luck to all of us !

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sorry OP

Feb 26, 2020 at 9:13am

I felt kind of shocked when I got to the end of this post.
I'm so used to reading "I love being single, all men are crap and all I need is a cat/dog lololol" from the women on confessions, your admission that the lack of companionship and romance in your life hurts you took me by surprise.
I don't know what to tell you to cheer you up OP. It does get more difficult to find a partner as we get into our senior years. There are a lot of men out there who have no choice but to get used to a life of solitude as well. Many of them have never been kissed or made love to for even longer than you. Some of them have never experienced those things. It seems like solitude and disconnection is just the way we're headed as a society.
I feel for you OP. I'm glad you're not like the usual batch of sociopaths on this website who just brag about how much they hate relationships and being around other people.

Yeah well

Feb 26, 2020 at 11:55am

I'm a guy and half the age, same.
But long since given up,and feel much better for it and focus on my own interests and retirement fund.

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Bob

Feb 26, 2020 at 1:53pm

Hang in there. You will find someone. I have had luck with finding someone online. Maybe try match.com or eharmony . Good luck and don’t give up.

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shred of optimism

Feb 26, 2020 at 4:18pm

I have no advice for you, zero.

However. Reading your poignant words, it occurs to me that you have really clearly stated your wants and needs. That seems like a good start. Not in the woo-woo, magic, "ask the universe" type of way (although that would be cool if it worked!), but in a practical sense of having a starting point.

You know what you want. That's half way to having a plan!

What's your plan gonna be?

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Getting old

Feb 26, 2020 at 7:45pm

is tough. Things wind down, then it ends.

Perception. Reality.

Feb 26, 2020 at 9:16pm

Switch genders. Could say the same, and more! about what's writ. You would know ahem.
Common demonator.
Wanting. Yet Disdain....begets disconnection.
Take a look.
Happier with furry, scaly, friends..
Wanting, celebrating, fighting for not with.
Then stuck where the heart don't live with type like you.
We don't want your kind. That secretly despises us.

I tried with a 52 yr old

Feb 26, 2020 at 11:37pm

"I'm an attractive professional woman, fit, kind, funny, and I would like to think somewhat sexy."

And she was too immature for me, a 32 yr old.

Your post gives me hope lol. I think the nearly retired or already retired are the right categories for me. Financial freedom is freedom from politics of reputation. Can't wait to get there myself; singularly focused on that actually.

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I wonder how

Feb 27, 2020 at 3:50pm

The OPs husband made out. She probably got the house he paid for,and pension fund too. Good chance he's still working after being bankrupted, while she lays around complaining about lack of sex

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