Life’s a bowl of cherries

posted February 9th, 2020 at 10:36 PM

My life has been full of incredible and at times unbelievable experiences. And yet some of the most commonplace rites of passage in life have alluded me. On one hand I consider myself lucky. And on the other hand I wonder how it’s even possible. At times I’m viewed as something ethereal, others an unfortunate pariah, sometimes I’m even viewed in a more sinister light with suspicion. Inevitably there comes that sideways glance given in hopes of catching insight to why I deviate from a perceived accepted norm. My life has just been different than yours. I’ve met a surprising number of people in Vancouver who don’t know how to swim. I also know an even larger group of people who are virgins. I’m curious though why one is obsessed over more than the other. I could tell someone I don’t know how to swim, but admitting I’m a virgin seems incredibly taboo. Why is that?

12 Comments

A bird in the hand

Feb 10, 2020 at 2:22am

Find a pretty swim coach.
Seduce and beguile. Get naked and naughty with them.
Check and check.

Because

Feb 10, 2020 at 4:50am

our culture is sex obsessed and not in a healthy way

Just a thought

Feb 10, 2020 at 6:32am

Most people by a certain age have experience with intimacy in relationship. That's why being a virgin after a certain age (30?) is taboo. It implies there's no attempt at, or no desire for intimacy.

Computer love

Feb 10, 2020 at 6:35am

I think it comes down to people not being as open minded as they think they are.

Or perhaps “open mindedness” for many is “deviant sameness.” So if you’re poly and fetish-friendly, this computes to some folks as being “open minded” and “non normative” when this way of life may simply be reflective of influencer culture and/or the current dating climate. In my experience, people have a difficult time recognizing their own homogeneity.

If you have had a bunch of cool life experiences but are still a virgin and people place value judgements on that, please don’t take it as a reflection on you. It may just be that these peeps are stuck in a “do not compute” loop because they are more boxed in than they think they are.

Anyone worth your time would not judge you for which rites of passage you’ve experienced and which you have not. But step one: find people worthy of your time.

Soooo?

Feb 10, 2020 at 7:56am

Are you trying to say you can’t swim and are a virgin? Not getting it.

It is...

Feb 10, 2020 at 10:26am

... Fairly easy to learn to swim or to not be a virgin. Well, ok, it was years ago, I dunno how things work anymore. If you get to age X without swimming, sexing, cooking a steak, hollandaise sauce, etc. Its just sort of odd.

If you are male its -very- odd.

Anonymous

Feb 10, 2020 at 11:17am

haha awesome, let me PM you! I want to pick your mind!

Maybe your

Feb 10, 2020 at 12:26pm

Pond scum..
Maybe
Who cares.
Why ask questions ?
Does it really matter.
Be you.
Can you do that ?
One foot in front of the other, its a start:)

"I'm a virgin"

Feb 10, 2020 at 1:09pm

was my pick-up line when I was 20 something. It worked well.

Truthfully I'd find it more shocking

Feb 10, 2020 at 3:34pm

If I knew you and you explained one day you couldn't swim, rather than you had not had sex yet. Sex is very interpersonal experience and who you share that with and when. What that means to your own person sexuality and who's business it is also are of course entirely up to yourself. All other speakers on the subject can take a fuck you number and be gone thank you come never again and have a nice day. I would be proud of you as a parent in my case as a father.