You need to find a connection to someone that gets you a little to a lot electric. When you do, start working on building on the already present chemistry and when the time is right I'll bet the first time you and your newly found partner sex it up. You'll wonder why you came so fast and probably start worry about that, please try not to especially now that I mentioned it. Good luck ;-)

Sounds like your libido is quite low. Perhaps maybe there’s stress in your life that’s causing you to feel this way? Have you thought about trying tantra? You should consider seeing a tantric therapist to help you reach the G spot and enjoy your sexy life again. Try doing some research on how to get your drive back and seek some sexual therapy. Good luck!

It sounds like you may have hit menopause early. Many women do. There are treatments you can use! Please don’t hesitate to seek help for this. Life is definitely NOT over, and sec doesn’t have to be in your past. Many of us (much older) women still have very healthy sex lives and are in great physical condition. Don’t give up until you find something that works for you.

Your sex drive should have ramped up.

Sometimes you just gotta feel around for the light switch.

Rx: coconut oil, silk garment, self pleasure.

and dudes start going limp at 40....

statistically couples who are over 40 being like "we got a great sex life" are full of crap.

For years, I was told that woman's libido goes crazy when she becomes 40ish. I read the selfish gene, it doesn't make sense that woman that age should be all horned up. Why does that myth persist? Discuss.

...so that's how it looks for the other team.
The good news is that unlike men, women are FAR more resilient to aging...statistically. Except for the menopause part, which can be quite beastly. But if and when you get your groove back, it's absolutely magnificent.
Assuming all of your life was spent in the developed West, that age range is about right. When the mind's adolescence is confronted by the body's maturity. Or maybe one's mortality appears out of nowhere and bites one in the face.
As a dude that lost the six-pack somewhere in his early twenties, and didn't find it again until mid-forties, I can say that things potentially get better, but in unexpected ways. For example, I can maintain fitness through lifestyle and supplementation alone. Even when I can't work out for a bit because injuries. Benefits of a more even and predictable metabolism. And sleep is more restorative.
Pain is pretty much a constant now, but that was always the case for me... Normal where I'm from.
Sexually, supernatural stamina is a recent and unwelcome development, but my enjoyment of the many and various acts has not changed. Experience and knowledge have made me more effective, open and creative as regards to horizontal refreshment (among other things). Or so I'm told.
But I quit smoking and beef at 30, high carbs and drinking at 37. Neurochemical habits were never my thing. Which makes me horribly square, I know...I actually enjoy (and even make!) salads now.

There are those who can drink, drug, gorge, purge, binge, smoke, f*ck everything, and otherwise bungle their way through life with no discernible wear and tear. Sometime after your thirties, you find out if you are not one of them.

Should chat with your doctor.
Sex is suppost to get better when your older.
Your sex drive enhances even.
Dont care so much about stupid shit anymore.
Lets you enjoy the good stuff even more.
Well Im hoping :)

Sadly it's true and quite a normal experience with many woman. It's a hushed topic, but it happens. Visit your doctor and you may be redirected to certain lubricants that may help, and hormone therapy. There are ways to make the experience somewhat enjoyable again, but it takes work...men don't seem to experience this at all which sucks