I realize this is going to sound stupid...

my friend and I have been fooling around, off and on, for 6 months now, and it has occurred to me that I might be falling in love with him. How do does one know if they are in love? I'm too old to not know the answer to this, but it's really confusing when they are already your friend and you already care about them.

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oh wait wut

Mar 4, 2020 at 12:03am

it might be love
...if your brain feels all scattered like you're some kinda nut
it might be love
...if your heart's beating like crazy and there's a knot in your gut
it might be love
...if it's yes to the butt

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Falling in love

Mar 4, 2020 at 6:24am

I think you're setting yourself up for failure during a fwb situation. It's most likely he's not. Don't be surprised to find him meeting someone else and falling for them.

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It is stupid

Mar 4, 2020 at 10:40am

Do you believe your heart would break if you were to ever lose them? It's not really something you need to ask yourself. You just know.

Never been in luv

Mar 4, 2020 at 10:46am

But I think you know when your in love when you cant imagine being with anyone else.
You feel safe and warm in their arms and
when they kiss you.
Well
Its like a roller coster feeling.
Do you get that feeling ?

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Well...

Mar 4, 2020 at 11:43am

... only you know if you're in love, it's not like it's an empirical thing, we can't scan your brain, and if we did, we'd find it's a combination of cortexes all firing at once. The drug that seems to cause them to fire more in unison is LSD, but, of course, then you come down, unless you do a heck of a lot of it for a long time, then you fuse the circuits...but you probably don't want to do that.

You'd need to say what you mean by love.

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A selfie kinda love

Mar 4, 2020 at 12:07pm

Jump in.
If you're wrong, you'll get clarity. And if you're right, same. Uncertainty is worse than either.
But I'm obviously a freak and a madman. Cooler heads will chime in and vote for safety. Also, I almost certainly don't know you, so meh. And if we were banging for 6 months and you took that long to get feels, I'd be out.
Way too selfie for me.

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Easy

Mar 4, 2020 at 1:39pm

You think about them constantly and wish you could see them every day and get butterflies when you do.

@easy

Mar 4, 2020 at 7:29pm

then I guess I'm in love

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Embrace it

Mar 5, 2020 at 3:43pm

But don't force it on your friend. Love is fleeting and should be enjoyed for the short time it's felt. Just don't expect it to last forever and don't hold it against anyone when it disappears.

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@oh wait

Mar 5, 2020 at 6:20pm

then I guess I'm in love

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