Why I confess

I have few friends. That’s never really bothered me because I’m a bit introverted and I’ve never been that social. But as I’ve gotten older the few important friends in my life have drifted away. Either they moved away, had kids late in life and so couldn’t hang out anymore, or else we just grew apart. So now I’ve got no one left that I can really talk to about things going on with me. I’m presently single again. I’ve got adult children but they have enough of their own things to deal with and they don’t need to hear the innermost thoughts of their parent. So sometimes I come on here just so that I can feel like I’m actually talking to someone else, not just to myself. Thanks for listening.

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hits so close to home

Mar 3, 2020 at 11:12am

Your comment on adult children. Right now I, and the majority of people I've known the last 10-15 years, all have kids flying away. Some of us have not lived entirely through our kids, but most, myself included, have created emptier lives independently of them and we're all soon going to be faced with this.
How does one recreate a social life at 40 that's not sad and trying, or hanging out in bars with people half the age?

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Reach out to the old friends

Mar 3, 2020 at 11:41am

More likely than not they’ll be glad to hear from you. I let some friends stray away because life got busy. But it seems they’re always had to hang out again even if it’s not very frequent. Familiar friendly faces are always good in my books.

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Take it from me

Mar 3, 2020 at 5:39pm

Sometimes more often than not, being a self sufficient hermit is a good thing. It allows you to get your head straight so that you can hear yourself think. I see an old friend of mine but very sporadically because he’s married and busy raising a family . He has commitments and responsibilities which is only natural because family comes first, so I just accept it and go with the flow.

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I Hear Ya

Mar 4, 2020 at 1:25am

I have one friend in the Lower Mainland, and two who live in other countries. I speak to two of them every day. Other than that, I tag along to shows with my lovely LGBTQ+ youth, and that community has welcomed both of us like no other. Many queer people have complex relationships with their biological families, so they create the warmest environment I’ve ever seen. (Besides those of us who rallying against hate-mongers. We’re awesome!) And I get to hang out with some incredibly talented people. Come to this side, where even locals are pretty friendly! <3

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