I wishposted May 22nd, 2020 at 6:02 PM I wish I had someone or something or somewhere in my life that felt like home. I'm one of those people who would be dead for weeks before anyone noticed. We are everywhere. Show 10 Comments 10 Comments Post a Comment Buddy SystemMay 22, 2020 at 7:38pmguess we need one of those. Weeks isn't badMay 22, 2020 at 8:22pmSome people have gone for years dead in their homes without being noticed. ConsiderMay 23, 2020 at 2:27amConsider joining a place of worship when they open back up. You will find a community of people who, like you, are seeking to build relationships. Houses of worship offer a nice path into bringing a community of people into our lives.Best Wishes! UmmMay 23, 2020 at 7:16amIf you want to be noticed, go out and do something noticeable. Volunteer somewhere. Do something for others. Strive to put something in their lives they would miss if you weren’t around. Not mine but goodMay 23, 2020 at 12:09pm"Our sense of home in this culture is not big enough to meet our need to belong." he continues: "home is when people notice when you are not there" -some guy i saw in an interviewWe need to rebuild the village, and take care of each other. The world we see today is the consequence of not doing so. Yup, I'm one of those people tooMay 23, 2020 at 2:45pmI've even had the thought cross my mind that the hallway of my nice high rise condo is going to be reeking of me until someone dares enter to find my corpse. @ConsiderMay 23, 2020 at 9:16pmHanging around mentally ill ppl won't really help him, Anon. Darla McWinMay 24, 2020 at 12:04amIt's disappointing that "Consider"'s advice is being voted down.Whatever else people might think about religion, it *does* provide a sense of belonging and - it should be pointed out - is one of the first places new immigrants head to for - at the very least - getting some acquaintance with a new place. When you need to be grounded quickly in a new place, there's few better places than a religious gathering that you're familiar with.I'm not religious myself, but if people can find some sense of belonging and make sense of the world through it, I say, "Why not?"I'm coming to see that Western societies are so woefully atomized due to ideas behind the self that I genuinely think people should be much more guarded about any system or 'ism' that makes "my" rights or "my" freedoms the primary motive of being. It's not surprising that immigrant families on the whole tend to much fewer instances of mental health problems; it might be that they're too busy being responsible for other family members to spend much time feeling lonely while scrolling through Netflix titles or Reddit.Sometimes, the best and most meaningful things in life are the responsibilities we undertake for others and if whatever 'ism' you think you identify with doesn't have any of those, or say much about accountability or duty, maybe it would be worth your while to rethink your approach or 'what you want'.If your beloved ideology conjures up the sense that your tombstone should read like a LinkedIn profile, I'd honestly offer that you're missing out on the whole "you".If you think otherwise, that's fine, but the only eulogy you should expect at your funeral will be someone muttering to themselves because the cardboard box you were in didn't burn completely.You're going to die.If someone cares when you're gone, it's because you were a real person to them. Show them. Be a real person. With what's out there, you're better off.May 24, 2020 at 12:21pmThe only home I care to make is within myself.Everything and everyone is temporary.To be a good person and do good. That's all that matters.Death and how we leave is irrelevant. @ConsiderMay 24, 2020 at 8:49pmPeople should attend houses of worship if their beliefs match the belief system of that particular place. You can't just "use it" to make friends. It's like saying - go to the pool to meet people if you don't like swimming.Besides, the large majority at church are female seniors.Probably 80% in some cases. Rather, go somewhere because it interests you. Sometimes immigrants go because they have been sponsored by that church. LOAD MORE Join the Discussion Your name Comment * your name What's your name?