Trying to make friends is like dating

It takes a lot time and energy pretending to be politically correct not to offend so I can be accepted. Keeping up an image and pretending to be someone that I am not is also exhausting. The moment I let my guard down I get disappointed. Anytime I can be ghosted for what ever reason. Making friendships with anyone no longer important to me.

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For sure

May 24, 2020 at 5:48am

And then you get ghosted and you think what did I say and do? Why didn’t they like me? And so on. The rejection is just like dating and I’m not sure if I want to pursue them anymore either.

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Anonymous

May 24, 2020 at 7:29am

Some of my closest or newest friends totally withdrew after admitting my addictions to them

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Anonymous

May 24, 2020 at 10:13am

Those aren't friends you're trying to make.

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I hear U

May 24, 2020 at 10:50am

It is exhausting for sure.

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There is no fun...

May 24, 2020 at 11:39am

...in not being your authentic self.

If you’re finding that you’re having to change or censor yourself in order to make others happy, it might be helpful to either:

a) Find friends who you share your ideologies and/or are open to healthy debate with people from differing views.

b) Take some time to re-examine your political beliefs to see if they need an update or evolution. We don’t have to hold all of our ideologies forever if they are not serving us.

(Consider: why are you attracted to making friends who appreciate political correctness?)

Good luck!

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Disingenuous

May 24, 2020 at 1:10pm

Maybe if you stop pretending you'll attract friends who are more like you?

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You Don't get It

May 24, 2020 at 3:18pm

At the best of times people are trying to get their lives in order,dealing with older parents,family strife, career worries etc. And on top of that living in the most expensive place in N America, scrambling to make enough to pay rent/mortgage etc. Or can't pay that, and live in shared rentals as the housing market has .0001% vacancy.
Most don't have time or the energy left

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Anonymous

May 24, 2020 at 5:15pm

Yeah, like a few other people said, this isn't for friendship. This is how you should treat co-workers who you don't fully get along with. Inauthenticity is for the watercooler, not the donut shop.

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Anonymous

May 24, 2020 at 7:00pm

"law of attraction" is bullshit placebo. op is talking About real people

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Anonymous

May 24, 2020 at 9:28pm

Vancouver's a deep pool with shallow people. So many looking for an audience instead of a friend. They love to talk about themselves.

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