Off Loading Friends

posted July 9th, 2020 at 9:58 AM

Since Covid started I have been seeing some friends on a regular basis in an outdoor area, very socially distanced of course. But over the last few weeks they have been going out, like out out. Last week I was invited to a bar for a party. I declined but they all went. Now I'm thinking WTAF?! If they put themselves at risk ok, but do I now put myself at risk hanging with them, even outside. They talk about being safe yet they are being so called safe out and about at a busy bar? Now I have a dilemma do I just stop hanging out with the only people I thought I respected? We are not out of this and there are new cases every day, yet people are taking big risks. I have lost respect for almost everyone I know, now this.

7 Comments

John McNeil

Jul 9, 2020 at 12:36pm

You are a good responsible citizen and friend.

If they choose to be cavalier, then yes, you are doing the right thing by staying away from them.

Be proud if yourself.

Anonymous

Jul 9, 2020 at 2:55pm

I'm at that point too, my bubble was pretty small to begin with...

Dismayed

Jul 9, 2020 at 4:33pm

The one person I did spend time with went out and had a one night stand. Sort of the opposite if social distancing...

Stay Home

Jul 9, 2020 at 6:17pm

I wouldn't want to hang out with them after that either.

I feel it too

Jul 10, 2020 at 12:27am

Except in my case it’s my own family! I’ve been trying very hard for months to be careful, but when I recently attended a family gathering, expecting that we’d be doing social distancing, it was clear from the outset that I was the only person that was concerned.

Hol

Jul 12, 2020 at 11:56pm

In this extraordinarily difficult time, it seems like an an eternity since the time we could hug our loved ones, let alone go out dancing. Strangely, I find it helps to think of this is something we need to do for a year. If I put it in that context then I think I have the ability to be strong and hang in there.

It's ok if done responsibly

Jul 13, 2020 at 1:20pm

It's ok to go to bars IMO (and according to current public health advice). Just do it responsibly. Don't go somewhere that doesn't have safe practices in place. I've been to a few bars and breweries in Vancouver. They all have strict rules on capacity, group size, social distancing, sanitizing and contact tracing. I feel comfortable and safe.

But all that said if you're not comfortable going to a bar yet that's fine too. Just don't expect your friends to have the same level of concern you do. We're all individuals. Maybe decline any bar invitations and arrange another time to meet in a park.