I've dated my bf just over a year. We don't live together but have had conversations about one day joining households. I adopted a kitten on the weekend (too small to take home yet) and he is very pissed I didn't consult him. I had told him early on I wanted a pet, but I suppose for him it was something far off in the future. We don't live together, he could be gone at some point (whether we break up for this or something else) and he has zero financial obligations to my pet. For me the timing is right. I don't know that I owed him a consult on this? It feels really crappy to be yelled at and accused of being selfish on this.