Dwindling friendship

I used to have this super funny, creative and open minded friend. Over the years I lost her to the world of corporate finance, 9-5 life and frightening money obsession. I’ve seen it coming for years but recently realised she’s so far gone in that world and our personalities & values are completely different. I don’t want to hang out with her anymore, because every conversation is about money! I’ve told her so many times that I value a simple life but she can’t leave it alone and is always bringing up $$$. So sad. Does anyone have a friendship like this ?? How do you deal?? I don’t want to lose her as a friend but I also can’t deal with constant talks of finance.

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Money can't buy you love

Aug 4, 2020 at 10:06pm

Tell her she's going to hell for making money her god, and when she gets there she's going to be absolutely broke and with nothing for all eternity.

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Anonymous

Aug 4, 2020 at 10:56pm

I find it strange that this type of person remains in Vancouver, a city that doesn't even have a real business district let alone a finance centre. Just a corporate office here or there. Do you think they know they're actually total lightweights and would be eaten alive in a real city?

Nope

Aug 5, 2020 at 1:13am

My exp has been that when they get married and have kids (& you don't) that's when the friendship starts dwindling.

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@Anonymous

Aug 5, 2020 at 6:40am

Hmnnn...this comment and it’s attitude of superiority sounds eerily familiar to another one made about a different post. The idea that one has to be anywhere but here in order to lead a life of interest.

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Interesting

Aug 5, 2020 at 7:45am

I know someone who is ALWAYS chasing the $. I respect their work either for sure, and they make millions a year now. But their family suffers, there is almost no downtime and they have missed out on living a full life because of it. BUT they will financially comfortable, where people like me, meh, I don't need much

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Anonymous

Aug 5, 2020 at 8:09am

Ask her to pay? I'd like to say have a hunting conversation but if she works in corporate she is probably used to a more harsh approach now. Hopefully she will balance out in a few years but if she has money she will probably like spending money. You might need to say something like "I'm poor!" instead of "simple life".

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Be Fair

Aug 5, 2020 at 10:41am

You are probably boring her to the brink.
Just tear the bandage off already!

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T. Tok

Aug 5, 2020 at 2:41pm

She’ll be in a mental hospital in no time. Lots of brilliant folks in those buildings.

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it’s ok to not be friends anymore

Aug 6, 2020 at 8:41am

It doesn’t really sound like much of a friendship. Why are you trying so hard to be friends with someone you don’t like anymore?

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In Case You hadn't Noticed

Aug 6, 2020 at 2:41pm

We live in one of the the most expensive places in the world.
Complaining about being too money focused is Ok when you're 25, but if you're 50-60 and have no retirement fund, no home, etc I imagine it gets very scary.

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