Would be nice

If my Mom actually showed sincere interest when I go on vacation and said, “Have a great time, you deserve it”. Instead, the only thing she’s interested in is how much the hotel is, How many days, how often we ate out, how much the car rental is. Just tallying up the receipts in her head. Pisses me off. I work full time and have been cooped in a tiny condo for months and it would be nice if she expressed excitement that I’m finally able to get away, rather than judge me on how much I’m spending. I’ve already given her thousands of dollars, delivered food and masks and gas cards, during the lockdown so it’s not like I haven’t helped her financially. Maybe next time I won’t even tell her I’m going away to spare us both the drama.

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Acceptance

Aug 3, 2020 at 11:51pm

Bellybuttons and arseholes, everybody’s got one, just like opinions. Don’t look for acceptance where you’ve never found it. Move on and tell her only what you want to share. Tricky at first, but freeing once you get the hang of it.

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You ungrateful little whiner

Aug 4, 2020 at 12:21am

Take her along with!

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Cellar dweller

Aug 4, 2020 at 4:28am

You can afford to go on vacation??

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Don't take her with you...

Aug 4, 2020 at 8:25am

She needs to realize you just want validation... which is a silly thing to ask for directly...

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why the upvotes

Aug 4, 2020 at 9:01am

a narcissistic kid expects their vacation to be celebrated by all their family. grow up. nobody cares.

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Don't tell her

Aug 4, 2020 at 11:54am

Just stop telling her. If she's like my mom, she'll never be happy for you and she'll never stop criticizing. Ever!

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Anonymous

Aug 4, 2020 at 2:37pm

Maybe she's just curious about how much she would have to spend for her own trip?

If not, you should just tell her that she isn't your personal accountant. Unless she intends to pay all the bills for you it doesn't matter the cost, and you have no interest in breaking them all down for her.

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Free advice

Aug 4, 2020 at 4:08pm

Lots of people have no idea how to express love except as warnings, because they are so full of fears and their own bullshit childhoods. The day you realize that your mom isn’t totally at fault for being an ass is the day you realize that you have succeeded her and therefore she’s not a threat to you, not really.

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Anonymous

Aug 4, 2020 at 5:36pm

LOL
grow up

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Daisydoo

Aug 4, 2020 at 10:56pm

I think you must be my long lost brother ... or stepbrother. Mom needs help

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