Crushing

posted September 15th, 2020 at 6:29 PM

I have a huge crush on an old acquaintance. I'd only talk to him alone but a handful of times, because he made me super-nervous, I liked him so much. Pretty sure he felt the like-eachother-vibes, too - but I was married and I'm pretty quiet/shy. I'm single now and find myself looking him up on social media (where we are connected), wondering how he is, and - now - it looks like we're both single. Would it be crazy to reach out to this guy and say: "Hi, don't know if you remember me but I can't stop thinking about you"? It feels a little crazy. But, also - what is this year, anyway?? Might as well take a chance, right? Who doesn't like to hear someone has a crush on them? Should I tell him I like him just out of the blue?

21 Comments

baby steps

Sep 15, 2020 at 8:22pm

Maybe ask him for a coffee or drink or appropriately distanced walk before splaying your heart wide open.

Yes

Sep 15, 2020 at 8:32pm

You have nothing to lose as he’s not in your life now anyway and you don’t want to wish you’d said something down the road.

Anonymous

Sep 15, 2020 at 8:44pm

Go for it!!!

Do like the firefighters

Sep 15, 2020 at 8:44pm

Douse that burning flame. Nothing wrong with contacting the guy, but cool your jets. Looks and sounds too forward and desperate. If he doesn’t feel the same, how will you feel? How about saying Hi first and ask how’s he’s doing so far in 2020?

Go for it

Sep 15, 2020 at 9:01pm

Totally on board, but I don't know if I'd say those exact words. More like "hi, how are you? I'd really like to take you for coffee, it's on me, how about it?" If someone I was crushing on was now single, you can be sure I'd make every attempt to reconnect without creeping them out... until at least a few drinks in ;) . And if he knew I was once interested and he tried this approach and we were both single, I'd definitely let him.
Yes, YOLO, so choose attempts over regrets anyway.