Single adult male

I have sworn off women for a while. I do not have energy for a meaningful relationship right now... and I feel terrible about it. There are a couple people who I want to date, but I just cannot maintain enough energy between work and my education to treat them well enough. I hope Vancouver becomes a more livable city in the future. It seems like you have to run around like a chicken with its head cut off to get by. Labour laws concentrate on physical well-being but they should really concentrate on mental well-being too.

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Puritanical dullard

Sep 29, 2020 at 12:07pm

I appreciate your insight into your own limitations and the way that you have set priorities for the management of your energy.

However, when you are ready to get back in the game, please consider selecting one woman, rather than a couple of women, if you truly want to achieve the goals of treating someone well and having a meaningful relationship.

VanBro

Sep 29, 2020 at 2:50pm

You're a wuss. Women don't like men who are flaccid. Man up.

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The economic system no longer

Sep 29, 2020 at 3:10pm

privileges men just because they are men. As a result, women have more options but it’s harder for us to find a doting breadwinner as more men struggle to earn enough to fulfill this traditional role. I’m not sure what the solution is - I think women should have equal rights to men economically but then the way we relate to each other has to change and both women and men need to be open to this. As such, you shouldn’t feel pressured to provide and women shouldn’t look for a man to do so. But we still tend to crave those traditional roles.....is it growing pains as we become more egalitarian?

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Anonymous

Sep 29, 2020 at 4:25pm

I took 4 or 5 years off and then one day the right person showed up literally on my doorstep.
Nothing wrong with focusing on yourself for a change. People recognize that

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I'm a one-man woman

Sep 29, 2020 at 4:54pm

But I wouldn't judge op for dating more than one. Polyamory is a thing. It's nor my thing and it might not be your thing, but to suggest those who live it can't have meaningful relationship is judgy ignorance.

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Shocking Reality

Sep 29, 2020 at 6:08pm

Vancouver will only become harder to get by in as an average Joe. Get ready for hoards of refugees fleeing their wild fire stricken countries due to climate change.

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@Shocking

Sep 29, 2020 at 7:14pm

Most of the Average Joe's left already!
Anyway, that's my moniker on here and I left nearly 9 years ago.

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Yeah.

Sep 29, 2020 at 8:31pm

I work 6 days a week. My one day off I just relax at home and watch movies. I have been doing this for 2 years even before Corona Virus. There is no time to see friends or date if I have to re charge and buy groceries on my day off.

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@@Shocking

Sep 29, 2020 at 9:10pm

I'm told that many Vancouverites have wound up in Nanaim-hole and the locals don't like all the foreigners stealing their jerbs.

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This saddens me

Sep 30, 2020 at 6:20am

Life should not be this hard for young people. If you don't have enough energy for something as fundamental and joyful as a relationship when you are young, it sure doesn't get any better as you get older! A good relationship will enhance your life and give you energy, as well as support to help you deal with the other aspects of your life.

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