An old friend

that I reconnected with this past summer kept telling me that she wanted to set me up with her and her husband’s friend. I am not underage, but they are all a lot older than me, and it turned out that the ‘friend’ they wanted to set me up with is over 30 years older than me and is a very wealthy business man. I found this strange, as she knows that I have never been in an ‘arrangement’ like that before and that I don’t really date men that much older. But she kept trying to force this connection, even inviting him to a couple bbq’s with me there and when I first met him it is obvious that this person would not be my type and that we have nothing in common but he seemed attracted to me and kept trying to talk to me, almost as if she had already told him I was into him. Flash forward and now it has occurred to me that, since her husband works in finance, it is highly likely that they were trying to recruit this very wealthy elderly man as a client. What if I was part of the ‘deal’? It grossed me out to even think about being used like that, but I just have this feeling like she and her husband were maybe trying to pimp me out to get him on board. Now that I’ve totally nixed the idea I have not heard from her in weeks, where before she was constantly trying to set up get togethers. I even jokingly told her that there is no way I would want to have a sugar daddy relationship unless the dude was willing to pay me six figures cash upfront. She looked mad when I said that!! These are all high end people that I trusted and now I just feel Really icky. If my friend and I are correct, is what they tried to do illegal? Like, should I be thinking of reporting it?


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Oct 17, 2020 at 5:36am

You’re right, sounds suspect and icky. Good on you for keeping firm boundaries and being clear with your wishes.

I don’t know if legal action is the solution. While there is a good chance your suspicions are correct, there is no real proof and everything was done “above board.” In addition, all of the other parties involved are in positions of power and may resort to coercive strategies if you take action. I am not a legal professional, just a person who has experienced some shady stuff, so take or leave this advice as you will.

If I were in your shoes my instinct would be to get out now and never contact this bunch again.


Oct 17, 2020 at 8:15am

Isn't it weird that people who only chase money are scumbags?

He's lucky you said no

Oct 17, 2020 at 8:17am

If you're not under 16 it's not illegal and you can make your own decisions.


Oct 17, 2020 at 10:06am

wonder who they would be voting for if they lived S. of the border?

Get a grip.

Oct 17, 2020 at 12:04pm

So you’re uncomfortable with the idea of dating an older man. And you don’t agree with ‘arrangements.’ Those are your preferences and that’s fine. But you just assume something illegal is going on here? You sound immature and you seem to have a wild imagination. There’s nothing wrong with setting people up to date, which is more likely what was really going on here. Don’t associate with these friends of yours anymore if you’re so weirded out, and leave it at that. Maybe also take up a hobby while you’re at it. Jesus.

They did nothing illegal

Oct 17, 2020 at 2:12pm

You just weren't into that rich older guy like they were. I doubt you'll have to worry about them going through the trouble of setting you up with anyone again. I'd be more concerned about feeling sorry for their daughter if they have one. When she gets to be around your current age, they may end up trying to push someone even older on to her.

@they did nothing illegal

Oct 17, 2020 at 2:58pm

But they would have made hundreds of thousands off me being set up with this person. Regardless of my age, isn’t that called trying to prostitute someone??

Stay away

Oct 17, 2020 at 3:13pm

from them but if you ever get the chance try to get evidence about all this. Then you could maybe do something about it with actual proof.


Oct 17, 2020 at 3:41pm

Not illegal just a total douchebag move. If these scumbags are your friends then maybe you should start finding some enemies to hang out with.

"You're a creep"

Oct 17, 2020 at 4:15pm

Unless you got 6 figures

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