**rant warning** I am seeing someone that I love very much, but his lack of communication skills is creating a huge barrier between us. He has a tendency to constantly offer “advice” in spite of me having specifically told him repeatedly that I don’t want advice unless I ask for it. He seems incapable of being compassionate or empathetic in many circumstances, even when I tell him directly that I could use some empathy. There are so many times when all you need is just a shoulder and someone to talk to! When someone is always telling you what you “should” do, what they’re actually doing is telling you that you’re not competent enough to make your own decisions or that your own way of doing things is not the “right” way. I have known him for a long time and we’ve broken up and reconciled many times, almost always due to this same issue. I had been feeling very optimistic this last time because it felt like we were communicating much better than ever, but now I feel completely defeated again. I just think that he’s completely incapable of ever changing his behaviour. And please, before you all jump all over me and say that it must be something I’m doing wrong, I can say with confidence that it’s NOT that. I have watched him do the exact same thing over and over again with other people too. It’s a family trait (his immediate family does the same thing also).