Looking for advice

I was courting a woman in her 20's back in our 20's and it fizzled out - my fault for that. Nothing bad. We exchanged numbers and I still have her in my phone. I've been thinking of reaching out but part of me asks myself, "Is this okay to do?" I've been out of the dating game for coming on 3yrs and that leaves me a dummy towards how to approach a woman.

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I don't know but...

Oct 16, 2020 at 7:22pm

.... it maybe awkward since it doesn't sound like there was a whole lot of chemistry there, and it's obvious that you're merely acting out of desperation and loneliness. Also they could be with someone else now. Personally, I think you just need to find an activity that interests you and allows you to meet people that share your interest. Perhaps a martial arts class.

Might as well

Oct 16, 2020 at 7:40pm

You have nothing to lose. A rejection might cause a bruised ego but nothing lost and nothing gained. At least you’ll know the answer. If it’s a yes then I guess you’ve got yourself a date! Bonus points for guys who can fess up to their wrongdoings too! Maybe add an apology for that to your opening line.

Maybe send a friendly text message

Oct 16, 2020 at 8:04pm

But definitely do not call.

Call Her Up

Oct 16, 2020 at 9:17pm

Why not give her a call, she's probably thinking about you too. Won't hurt.

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I think not

Oct 16, 2020 at 9:58pm

As a woman with a lot of dating history behind me (I’m in my 60’s with a few long -term and a few short-term relationships in my past), I can say without doubt that I would not welcome any of my past dates or relationships to reach out to me. I’ve actually had a couple of guys do that, and I didn’t reply at all. They’re in the past for a good reason. I say that you need to focus on the present and your immediate future, and put the past where it belongs.

What the 60s woman

Oct 17, 2020 at 1:03am

hasn't seemed to learn, is that people can and do change with the passage of time.
Sometimes people are more compatible when they're older and settled.

Woman

Oct 17, 2020 at 5:47am

I think it sounds okay, as long as you’re prepared for any outcome and keep your expectations realistic.

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Anonymous

Oct 17, 2020 at 8:51am

Women move on differently than guys do. Usually when they are done, they are done. It's the guys who get all wishy washy.
I tried doing that (actually joins Facebook to try and reconnect with my old flame) and it didn't go anywhere.
People are so desperate now with covid that you should probably just pay attention to the women who are reaching out to you.

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@What the 60’s

Oct 17, 2020 at 1:27pm

As a matter of fact, what I’ve learned from so much experience is that relationships that didn’t work , didn’t work for good reason. Oh sure, occasionally there’s an exception to the rule, but mostly old relationships belong in the past. And no, most people don’t change all that much so that they suddenly become compatible with someone with whom they weren’t compatible before.

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OP

Oct 18, 2020 at 10:56am

The answer was to text her.
This is from a few months ago. I just wanted to see what y'all would say about it.

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