Disgusting Habit

When my wife drives our kids to school in the morning I turn on the laptop and look at pornography for 30 minutes right before I start my work day as I work from home. I love my wife and we have a great sex life its just she doesn't approve or pornography as she feels it is demeaning to women and since I have two daughters I should be disgusted by it. I just feel so ashamed of my disgusting habit.


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Not a porn fan

Nov 23, 2020 at 12:07pm

However, if it isn’t interfering with your sex life or your life in general then there’s no reason to feel ashamed. Is the shame due to going against someone you love and care about or is it due to you actually being grossed out by what you’re doing? Maybe you should evaluate that. A lot of the women in porn are there because they want to be. Nobody is forcing them. It is a short lived career choice for most of them and it leads to deep shame and regret for a lot of them which is sad. I do think that it portrays sex in a really unhealthy and unrealistic way. Maybe you should try having morning sex with your wife a couple times a week to combat doing this almost every day? Just a suggestion. I’m a woman and I actually prefer afternoon/evening sex. I’m not a morning person and my partner is so it’s a struggle.


Nov 23, 2020 at 12:23pm

Why do I think this post has something to do with the "wfh oops" confession from the other day?

Be ready for some interesting comments.

Just wondering?

Nov 23, 2020 at 12:35pm

Are you the same guy who sent a porn link to his manager at work? Because if so, some might consider you to be obsessed with the whole topic.

Would be curious to hear

Nov 23, 2020 at 12:37pm

How many people reading this have identified that they have a porn addiction, when/how did you determine that it was indeed an addiction, and what steps, if any, are you taking to quit or reduce your porn consumption?

I’d also be curious to know how many people have had relationships end because of porn and/or microcheating on social media platforms, or other activities where attention is drawn away from a central living human and focused instead on a series of images.

You are not disgusting <3

Nov 23, 2020 at 12:39pm

You know what’s actually demeaning? Shaming people for watching porn. Sex is a natural and enjoyable thing and I don’t see anything wrong with it unless it becomes an obsession (ie. not getting work done because you’re watching or the content is inappropriate like child porn or just really aggressive rapey that you try to replicate with your wife). You can seek out sites that have more “ethical” content where everyone is consenting and paid for their work. Couples watching porn together is a great thing that can really help in the bedroom and bring you closer. Is there any chance she’d change her mind and watch with you?

So what?

Nov 23, 2020 at 3:02pm

Only Fans has 450,000 "content creators", so what's the difference?


Nov 23, 2020 at 6:25pm

Please look up sex positivity and start unlearning that shame. Masturbating is healthy, natural, and great for your mental health.

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@Not a porn fan

Nov 23, 2020 at 6:53pm

A lot of the women who are in porn are sex trafficking victims. This is a fact.

Many men do not like to know this because it means that they might have to face the fact that they're wanking to women who definitely DO NOT want to be there.

You think you can tell the difference between a trafficking victim and a woman who chose that work? Think again. Same with prostitution.

There's a reason sex trafficking is a multi-billion dollar a year industry. Men are happy to pay to rape women .. and many *many* are raped on film for your viewing pleasure.

I'm on your wife's side. As a whole the pornography industry is rotten to its core. It abuses millions of women and children and drives sex trafficking.

There are some women who choose that work, sure, but I don't watch porn at all because there are just too many women who didn't choose it.

@Just Wondering

Nov 23, 2020 at 7:13pm

How do you know a guy sent it?
Sexist much?

I get it

Nov 23, 2020 at 7:50pm

I look sometimes, and I feel badly for looking.

And, I think I should.

Because while I can tell myself all day long that it is something that people do it of their own free will, whatever that is, I think we should monitor ourselves to see if what we do in secret is something that we would mind other people knowing about. And I am not sure I would want people to know that I am excited by content on websites that make a lot of their money from truly ugly concepts - not healthy mammalian copulation, but extreme power and consent fantasies. Being troubled by something is a clue that maybe it's not ok.

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