COVID christmasposted December 20th, 2020 at 4:17 PM I told my family I won’t be able to make it to Christmas dinner this year, since you know, there is pandemic and everything. I didn’t expect to be given the silent treatment over this. What a cherry on top to end this shit show of a year. Show 9 Comments 9 Comments Post a Comment jamie76Dec 20, 2020 at 8:40pmI'll play a little Devil's Advocate first - is your family looking for an excuse to express some anger at you over something? Have you not (in their eyes) apologized or made amends for an incident?If it were my family, I'd tell them to go pound sand, NOBODY is supposed to be having Xmas dinner with ANYBODY who doesn't live in their 'household bubble' - if the neighbours saw you going into your parents' house, are the folks going to pay the summons/ticket? It's about $230+ for giving the finger to the Social Distancing rules for gatherings, email a copy of the BC Provincial gov't pages that spell it out. If you live alone, you can have one person over from your lover/besty bubble, but don't lose any sleep over the arrogance and ignorance your family is expressing. Guilt & manipulation are two of the preferred weapons of parents over their kids, no matter how old they are, it's up to you to stand tall and break the cycle.Good luck and Best Wishes! The lastDec 20, 2020 at 11:12pmThere will never be another Christmas. @jamie76Dec 21, 2020 at 1:46amVery well said. Emotionally immature parents make you think you’re the one doing something wrong by piling on the guilt to justify their own ridiculous choices or actions. Please don’t fall prey to it and trust you’re doing what you know to be right. Don’t lose sight of that. Best of luck to you. PositiveDec 21, 2020 at 2:52amThe positive thing is you don't have to buy gifts. What the?Dec 21, 2020 at 7:58amWho does this? Giving my head a shake. You are off the hook this year through no choice of your own. All 15 of us who usually meet, are not this time. No guilt trips, no questions asked. I suddenly feel super fortunate to have family and friends who are reasonable. Guilt IS manipulation, jamieDec 21, 2020 at 3:38pmMy secret confession. I would love it if someone (most likely a neighbour) would make an anonymous call about the psychocreep who invades our bubble. The perfect outDec 22, 2020 at 8:41amTell them you are sick. @@jamie76Dec 23, 2020 at 8:33pmGuilting someone out isn’t restricted to parents. My grown children do it to me constantly, and I NEVER do it to them. It’s something that I lived with growing up and therefore I vowed to never do that to my own kids. However, right about now I’m thinking that I was far too forgiving and understanding about the choices they made, because they’ve become pretty judgemental and critical adults, towards me in particular, regardless of their own flaws. No one should be “shoulding” on anyone else, whether or not you’re related to them. Remember that old adage about glass houses... @my secret confessionDec 24, 2020 at 6:45amWow, we must live on top of the same abusive boundary breaking neighbours. Join the Discussion Your name Comment * your name What's your name?