Thirty Four

34 units in my building. And I'm pretty sure I am the only person without a significant other. What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I meet someone and form relationships like normal people! I'm sick of being alone and lonely! I want to connect with people! But I don't know how. I go for walks alone at night, I see into houses, the cozy spaces, the families, the Christmas trees. I have nothing in my life that I feel connected to, no sense of home or belonging, no community. It gets worse every day and every year.

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You are all of us

Dec 2, 2020 at 9:49pm

Nice to to meet your inner critic. Not really as I suspect the real you is far more talented, beautiful and smart. So who you gonna listen to? Go well.

You wouldn't believe

Dec 2, 2020 at 10:25pm

The things that are on Plenty Of Fish. There's without a doubt, someone on there for you.

Been on both sides of it

Dec 2, 2020 at 10:46pm

Keep in mind that a lot of those people in seemingly great relationships are actually feeling disillusioned or disappointed with their situations, but are sticking with it out of habit or social pressure.

Sometimes those people get the courage to leave and then rediscover their original, beautiful autonomous selves again.

Being coupled is not the magical key to happiness and peace for everyone. I hope you find what works for you. Hug.

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You could...

Dec 2, 2020 at 11:45pm

try getting a pet.

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It takes a lot of effort to find someone

Dec 2, 2020 at 11:56pm

Also, you're assuming all those other people are happy. In my experience, being in the wrong relationship is worse than being alone. There's probably nothing wrong with you - you just haven't met the right people yet.

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Anonymous

Dec 3, 2020 at 12:15am

Hogwash
You dont know anything !
Assume much and you would be wrong.
You really think you got it all figured out so
you wont see it coming or going.
Thats the point now !
Also there appears to be a copycat ghost writer among us. Better grammer too.
Touche

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Forget about it

Dec 3, 2020 at 1:01am

all those happy normal relationships on the other side of those windows? Listen pal there's more than a little- there's a lot of relationshippers who do little more than sit around playing games with themselves all day about how to get to the side where you're at

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Anonymous

Dec 3, 2020 at 2:21am

Hug!

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@you wouldn't believe

Dec 3, 2020 at 9:46am

When I used Plenty of Fish (would never go there again) there were lots of married men and cheaters - one of my friends caught her husband there. It's free and easy to access, so although there seem to be some nice people there, I would approach it with caution, or - even better - avoid it altogether.

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If you are...

Dec 3, 2020 at 9:51am

... a male, it is because you are poor or ugly. If you are a female, it is because you do not put yourself out there, or have standards that are too high. That is basically how it works.

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