A family friend

hit on me a couple years ago even though he had an on-off girlfriend. He tried to kiss me several times in front of all his friends at this New Years party, and afterwards he kept contacting me to say he really wanted to see me again so I thought he was single but when I responded that I would see him, suddenly he had the girlfriend again and called our date off last minute. His sister said that his relationship is extremely volatile and they fight all the time. Then a year later he contacted me yet again in a very flirtatious way out of the blue. And again as soon as I wrote back he stopped and then I found out that he had gone away travelling with the on-off girl. I currently have not been in contact with him at all for over two years or even thought of him but suddenly found some slanderous comments written about me on the internet and had the source checked out and have found out that his girlfriend wrote them!!!!! I emailed him to tell him and he has not replied. It’s so messed up.


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Jan 18, 2021 at 4:07pm

hate the internet sometimes.

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Jan 18, 2021 at 5:00pm

There was a confession a few months back you might want to check out called “got played” (type this title into the search bar) with some good insight in the comments around tumultuous couples like this and how they use other unsuspecting third parties to fuel their mutual addiction to breaking up and getting back together.

I don’t know how serious the slander is, but if possible perhaps it would be best to steer a wide berth and trust that these folks are destined to self destruct.

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Jan 18, 2021 at 5:10pm

That's what unrequited love looks like.

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Malevolent games

Jan 18, 2021 at 6:13pm

I wouldn't doubt if he told her slanderous things about you to maintain interest
and look more desirable. Some couples play sick games like that and try to drag unsuspecting victims into their sick drama. They get off on it. I'm so disgusted by how maliciously vicious some people can be, never changing with age. The abuse and downright pettiness they resort to. She could be operating out of her own viciousness and jealousy too. But the fact that he didn't respond makes me think both participatef. There are a lot of mean-spirited people out there in co-dependent abusive relationships. I don't really even try to understand their reasoning anymore. I hope they change and become/treat people better, but if they just keep on going that way, may karmic retribution keep raining down on their petty little selves until they learn consequences have actions.

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Sounds like this guy

Jan 18, 2021 at 7:10pm

and the bubble busting bozo in the previous post could be the same idiot.

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Well Then...

Jan 18, 2021 at 9:21pm

Maybe check in with a free legal service and see if you can sue her.
If not, go and write slanderous things about her....

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Jan 19, 2021 at 9:12am

I had someone in my life awhile back, it's not worth it. He had a long term on/off relationship with someone, I would get called during the "between times". There was a horrible break-up, he got involved with someone, it seemed like a much more stable situation. Completely lost touch after that, I guess I wasn't needed anymore. Got into a nice relationship myself with someone else (Still happening) then he tried to get in contact with me again. Mutual friends told me all the same nonsense from the previous relationship was going on again with the new person. I've blocked him, I prefer a lot less drama these days.

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Jan 21, 2021 at 7:31pm

I agree with talking to legal aid, it's worth it to get legal help. In my situation, an entire household targeted and slandered me for an extended period of time. Some things you can't let go of, and you don't want anyone else going through the same thing when they have a history of abuse. Did the slander affect your quality of life, career? What kind of position do they hold in their community, and should they. All things to consider. Wishing you the best and strength. It is messed up.

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Jan 23, 2021 at 2:41pm

When them and their flying monkeys keep writing the burden of proof for you, it makes it really easy. It's terrible humans like that exist but at least it's in written public form.

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