Angry
posted January 5th, 2021 at 2:00 PM
My husband just told me that the day we went to the hospital thinking we'd lost our baby two years ago, he was emailing his ex as I was in the emergency room alone being told there was no heart beat. Why on earth he decided to tell me this now I have no idea. Thankfully we're going our separate ways. If his goal was to hurt me, it worked. I'm angry but all that matters is our baby girl survived and she's my world. Trying to get it out of my head though and it's tough. I'm angry.
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Post a CommentWil
Jan 5, 2021 at 2:52pm
Sometimes when I read the content of these threads I think to myself: These people are not mature enough or competent enough to be in relationships with themselves let alone others.
There ought to be litmus tests for people who want to hook up for more than a weekend.
time
Jan 5, 2021 at 2:55pm
heals
You’re right
Jan 5, 2021 at 4:22pm
He was definitely trying to hurt you. I know that right now it’s too fresh, but eventually you’ll realize that him telling you this is a good thing. It should reinforce for you that separation is the right thing to do, because being in a relationship with such an ass**** will just bring you down.
Righteous rage
Jan 5, 2021 at 4:28pm
That sounds awful and, unfortunately, not surprising considering so many partners tend to disassociate into escapist wormholes when they are called upon to be emotionally present. The triangulation after the fact is the icing on the douche cake.
You sound like a strong and amazing mama bear who deserves the world. Cut the ties you need to and go forth. You’re in good company.
@wil
Jan 5, 2021 at 5:10pm
But they're on "a journey" and "working on themselves" with a therapist.
Could be
Jan 5, 2021 at 10:20pm
that he's been feeling guilty about it all this time and finally couldn't keep it to himself any longer. So he self-indulgently dumped it on you. Or he was trying to blow up the relationship by telling you something he knew you couldn't tolerate. Either way, you're better off without him.
Winning
Jan 5, 2021 at 11:17pm
You are winning. He is trying to throw you off balance, make you anxious, hesitate and anything that else that could aid him in future dealings with you.
I like the word “adorable”....oh thats adorable, you think you can hurt me. Or I’m so sad for you if feel you need to say things like that.
Jezuz
Jan 5, 2021 at 11:37pm
He sounds like a selfish creep.
momentary anger
Jan 6, 2021 at 6:31am
It takes new parents a bit of time to adjust to the responsibility sometimes. Just be sure to give sufficient (not absolute) weight to staying together for the kids.
Anonymous
Jan 6, 2021 at 9:45am
What would a litmus test indicate for an soon to be ex husband who doesn't want someone he's abused gaining emotional strength and support, I wonder.
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