I don't wanna see you

It's hard to have the energy to be around a friend whose problems are of their own making who puts minimal effort into trying to improve their situation when you're fighting hard in your own life only to be held back time and time again by things over which you have no control.

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L. Oner

Jan 23, 2021 at 12:56pm

Aren’t friends meant to point out our faults/problems. To show us those problems aren’t as big as we think? I’m a hermit so I also may not know what I’m talking about.

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What's this?

Jan 23, 2021 at 1:16pm

What are his problems? Be specific.

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Anonymous

Jan 23, 2021 at 7:04pm

Poor thing. You express yourself so well. I want to remind you that you DO have control; and you’re typing right now, that too counts as control. For simplicity’s sake, I hope the person you think of in your mind can hear your words. But, I don’t know your story, or why you’re writing, but it sounds like they must have been a real monster from what you say, and that you must say goodbye to them on this board. Gather the things in life you have control over and keep those in the front of your mind. I wish you source healing and compassion in your life.

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I feel your position is

Jan 23, 2021 at 11:40pm

Vague. Self-serving. Full of lies.
All of the above

Anonymous

Jan 24, 2021 at 2:37am

Sounds like your playing that old board game of Life.
It was never really was a fun game, you get a plastic car, have to pay a bunch of stupid bills and you birth so many plastic babies that you have to drive around constantly.
So fun.
Kinda like the game Sorry.
No one really is in that game either.

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Hey OP

Jan 24, 2021 at 8:19am

I could have written the same thing about a few people.

In that way Covid is a blessing. I mean it's the best excuse ever not to see someone who constantly dumps problems on you then after
says "my life is crazy, it's just my life" (insert eye roll here).

Some people are just not self aware, but for some reason they think they are. If they were they would shut their mouth, figure their shit out and find something else to talk about besides their drama and their friends. All you can do is just step away, you don't need to deal with that.

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I get it

Jan 24, 2021 at 1:04pm

I have a friend like that too. She’s so miserable and angry and all she talks about is her own problems, the majority of which she creates. I’ve had to distance myself too, because time spent with her exhausts me.

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Flynn Dawall

Jan 24, 2021 at 5:47pm

As someone who attended AA meetings AND smart meeting groups for addiction... pre-COVID. I always wondered why AA was mostly men and SMART was mostly women. Then it clicked. Men in distress/recovery would rather listen. Whereas in those SMART groups... it was anything but listening. Just my observation.

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Cuhntroll Freakz

Jan 24, 2021 at 7:03pm

You have no control because he never got the chance to control himself. Who’s problem is it?

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T. Hilde

Jan 24, 2021 at 9:20pm

I’m actually laughing at this. Because you consider a person like that “a friend”. They’re going to ruin you, if they haven’t already.

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