Leave it or force it?

Since December- July i was dating a man I believe was true to his words. Long story short, he was a player.Amazingly I got pregnant I tried to let him know he laughed it off. I discovered his lies and broke it off. Baby was born and I sent him a notification and pic. No response. I expected that. I am not asking for support of any kind from him. No acknowledgement. Have a I done my due diligence? Is there more I should do? My only worry is if my son will think so...

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Amazingly?

Jan 4, 2021 at 11:38pm

You do know how babies are made, right? You should have done your due diligence before you chose to bring this child into the world. You sound like you were trying to trap this man and now your poor unfortunate child will pay for it. I hope you can afford to support him.

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Jan 5, 2021 at 3:24am

Congratulations on the birth of your son! May you be present for him during his most vulnerable stages of development (ie now) and beyond. Forget the dude.. sounds like he was just a donor. Mos def he’s no role model for the emotionally mature and intelligent boy you will be raising. All the best.

@op

Jan 5, 2021 at 7:06am

It's natural to worry about things by try not to worry too much. Everything is going to be alright I promise. You now have a miracle with your son enjoy every second and just have a great life!

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It’s about the child

Jan 5, 2021 at 7:12am

The guy has a responsibility to pay his share of support. This is the child’s legal right. I hate it when I hear women saying that they “don’t want a thing” from the father. This isn’t about you. You must ensure that your child gets the support he is legally and morally entitled to have. As for the comment suggesting that you tried to trap the guy, that’s complete bs. We have to assume that BOTH of you knew where babies came from. Regardless of how it happened, the fact remains that it did and now you both have a responsibility to provide for this child.

Blah-say

Jan 5, 2021 at 7:32am

You sound pretty cavalier and uninvested in the whole mess, despite the nature of this post.

@Amazingly?

Jan 5, 2021 at 7:35am

The man already trapped he may just not know it yet.

BC Family Maintenance Enforcement Program doesn't play around.

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@Amazingly

Jan 5, 2021 at 7:47am

So how do you know ?

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No you didnt

Jan 5, 2021 at 8:03am

Children are a responsibility and you are letting him run from that.

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@ Amazingly?

Jan 5, 2021 at 9:24am

Are you kidding? This person clearly stated she was not interested in support or anything. She is trying to do the right thing in terms of informing someone they their CHILD was born. Do you have a problem yourself, projecting it on others? How old are you? Who uses that expression "trap a man" anymore. Sorry, but buddy knew how babies were made too.

Good for you! Leave it now <3

Jan 5, 2021 at 9:41am

Can't see what the downvotes are for - ? What I read tells me you just want to be sure that when your son is older he knows you tried to let his bio father know about him -- that sounds really caring to me. You've tried a couple of times, so now I'd say leave it. I grew up without a present father, his choice, and although it was a bit weird on father's day, I didn't miss out. I had uncles, male family friends, and a loving grandfather who provided me with lots of good male role models and love. I would suggest cultivating those kinds of supports and relationships to help balance things.

For the idiot commenter above, "amazingly" is an excited, happy word, not one that says she doesn't know how it's possible, and there is no mention of wanting financial or other kinds of supports so .... maybe put your sad, generic assumptions somewhere others don't have to trip over them?

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