I give gifts all the time: birthday gifts, shower gifts, celebration gifts, wedding gifts. I try to be thoughtful and generous in my gift giving, but I don’t expect my gifts to have any long-term impact on the receive. Great some happiness and move on. My sister has struggled with infertility for years. She asked me to be an egg donor and I agreed. She was successful and is now due in the Spring. I cannot describe to you how good it makes me feel to know that my gift changed her life. We come from a conservative culture/family, so only she, her partner and myself know about it.