Our first Valentines together

posted February 13th, 2021 at 7:50 PM

I wanted it to be special. I made a reservation at the restaurant where we had our first date. But when I told my gf, she told me that she and her friends had a tradition of a non-romantic get-together on Valentines Day. So I cancelled the reservation and we went to this non-Valentines Valentines - us, her best friend and her bf, and my gf's best guy friend. After we broke up, I found out that my gf was actually in an open marriage with this "best guy friend". I was the only one not let in on the secret. The non-romantic get-together was so that he didn't feel left out on Valentines Day.

14 Comments

Ouch

Feb 13, 2021 at 8:29pm

That’s just messed up
So sorry you experienced that

Oy

Feb 13, 2021 at 8:55pm

Yoy yoy !

People

Feb 13, 2021 at 10:41pm

In “open relationships” are sociopaths

Anonymous

Feb 14, 2021 at 2:13am

Greasy

@People

Feb 14, 2021 at 7:05am

Due to jealousy, I could never do the open relationship, but I wouldn't call the people who can, "sociopaths".
It seems like a rather realistic/evolved way of relating since only one person won't have all the qualities you need; plus most people will meet other people they find attractive.
And if you're with someone extremely attractive, they're going to have lots of people interested in them. Someday(s) they may even decide to act on it. We can be hurt, or we can learn it's not the end of the world and life moves on.

I too found out that someone I was dating was also still fucking their ex (who was in a new relationship with someone else) and have had partners who cheated (a lot of young guys will cheat if they can get away with it) so I can relate to the OP. But I don't hate the people who openly live the open relationship lifestyle.

Dump

Feb 14, 2021 at 7:20am

Her ass,

Yikes!

Feb 14, 2021 at 8:32am

Wow, my heart goes out to you. That is so awful.

@People

Feb 14, 2021 at 9:10am

I'd have to agree with you. It's not my cup of tea, and to each their own, but why all the lying? If they're in an open relationship, why aren't they "open" about it. They can be "open" to their partner only? The ways I've seen them violently pursue single folks who want nothing to do with them is akin to a predatory animal with a sense of entitlement and no impulse control looking for their next plate at a buffet.