Reciprocation

Why is it my Mom only calls when she wants something, I am the one always initiating contact. I've invited her our home and she always has excuses, but will go places with my brother. So, I have stopped asking and the contact has just become an obligation instead of a relationship.

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Astro Knots

Feb 14, 2021 at 4:20pm

If what you’re saying is true. Then yeah... forget her. And see if she remembers you. Time to give those people a little space. Family... friends... everyone.

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Anonymous

Feb 14, 2021 at 4:50pm

Yeah, your momma doesn't want you. That's why she gave birth to you and raised you. The freeloading bitch!

@Astro knots

Feb 14, 2021 at 6:19pm

Love your name and advice.

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Payback time

Feb 14, 2021 at 6:57pm

For years she wiped up your puke and changed your diapers. Unless she is abusive, it is time to redress the balance. Humour her.

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Because...

Feb 14, 2021 at 10:07pm

Some parents do this as a way to establish contact. Kind of like how nagging is a way of getting attention. Your mother could ask anyone for stuff and this is how she keeps you in her life. I'm going to guess that she feels your resentment and/or that conversations aren't so welcoming so while she continues to try to keep contact with you, she'd rather be around children who are pleasant to be around. She seems like a fair weather parent who doesn't know how to handle confrontation or conflict that I'm guessing happens when you both get together, so she avoids any chances of conflict.
When you both can address the issues between you two, then you'll have better incentive for your mother to hang out with you.

What planet are you on?

Feb 14, 2021 at 10:53pm

Okay, listen up: for the past year there’s been this situation commonly known as a “pandemic”. Unless you’re actually living with your mother, you’re not supposed to be visiting with her in your home! The only way you’re supposed to be socializing with anyone outside of your immediate bubble (ie, people living IN THE SAME HOUSE), is outside, where you maintain at least 2 metres of distance between you, while you’re both wearing masks. When will people get this??? I have family members that I would dearly love to visit with, but I’m old and I live alone, and my kids live in households with several other people and they all either work or attend school. It would be irresponsible for me to socialize with them because any one of them could have come in contact with multiple other people and could be carrying the virus without even knowing it. Grow up and give the woman a break! You sound like a jealous child.

@What planet are you on?

Feb 15, 2021 at 12:51am

No sh*t. You missed the point of this post.

@@What planet

Feb 15, 2021 at 7:29am

No, I didn’t. The Op is obviously jealous that their mother hasn’t accepted invitations to their home, but has gone out with their other child. The Op isn’t supposed to be having visitors to their home in the first place. Perhaps if the Op invites their mother to meet up for an outside visit, their mother may be more likely to accept. As a parent of several children of my own, I completely understand that each of my kids is an individual and I have different relationships with each of them. This is because I’m also just another human and I’ll react differently depending on the circumstances at the time, as well as how my own personality interacts with my child’s personality. You know, kind of how every single other person is? I’ve always found it bizarre that so many people forget that mothers are just like everyone else. Human.

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Have you spoken to her about it?

Feb 15, 2021 at 10:06am

"Hi, Mom, I'm feeling like the only time we get together is when you need something. That needs to change, can we find a solution?" Done. No result? Let it go.

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@because

Feb 15, 2021 at 12:32pm

Honestly that Is amazing advice. Even helped me out

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