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posted March 25th, 2021 at 2:48 PM
I have not been on my own in a very long time and its scary and I'm having a bit of trouble taking the next step.
What is the next step ?
That's all.
posted March 25th, 2021 at 2:48 PM
Dan offers some advice on where she might find it.
13 Comments
Post a CommentAppreciate
Mar 25, 2021 at 6:25pm
yourself.
Know thy core
Mar 25, 2021 at 7:06pm
Get to know who you are, what you stand for, and what kind of world you want to live in.
Self Compassion
Mar 25, 2021 at 7:13pm
That probably the biggest and hardest acceptance.
Anonymous
Mar 25, 2021 at 8:03pm
Ask yourself what would make you happy, then start taking steps towards making that happen.
Crank some music
Mar 25, 2021 at 9:41pm
open a bottle of champagne or whatever you feel like drinking, make a big mess having a solo dance party and celebrate doing whatever the heck u feel like doing without needing anyone else
You're overthinking it
Mar 25, 2021 at 11:39pm
You've spent so much time living as a couple that you lost yourself in the relationship and forgot that you're an individual.
Take time to learn... or relearn.... about you.
What do YOU like? What do YOU want to do? How do YOU want to spend your time?
Ignore what others think, live your life for YOU for a change.
Test out things like a lazy hot bath with music YOU like. Order a pizza with just YOUR favorite toppings. Explore things that you wouldn't have done so because your ex wasn't into it or wouldn't like it. No limits now. Enjoy the freedom. It's the end of denial of the self.
You have you now. Discover or rediscover what you like and give it to you.
And enjoy it guiltless. You earned it.
The longest journey begins with the first step
Mar 26, 2021 at 3:39am
Deep within is a trail to the center. Start there. Keep in touch...
Single
Mar 26, 2021 at 8:57am
does not mean alone. We all need to socialize with others in some way. Keep in contact with any family or friends, even by phone, zoom etc. I kept busy finding topics on line that I found interesting and reading comments, even a support group with others newly single.
enjoyed solo
Mar 26, 2021 at 6:56pm
I exited a long tern relationship a couple of years ago, was terrified to be single, to date, have sex. I hadn't been single since before Facebook and Tinder et al, but I fucking loved it! Was so nice to do whatI wanted, when I wanted, without having to justify it, or ask permission. I accidentally went camping, the freedom was great. Enjoy your time being single, get in touch with yourself, and and you'll meet someone whence you're meant to
You dont need to ask
Mar 26, 2021 at 7:42pm
Dont ask us what's the next step. You finally have the freedom to decide for yourself!
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