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If you had waited a bit longer you would have received a reply. The thing is, it no longer matters to me when folks choose to end a conversation with me. I'm not fussy about that. That's entirely up to them. It's all about setting up mutial expectations on communication with folks you have relationships with.

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You're rude

Apr 28, 2021 at 4:26pm

So I'm guessing you're the type that constantly makes people wait on you, making them feel like they're really not all that important, less than adequate, and just generally taking their affections for granted until they realize that you don't share the same consideration for them that they had for you. Looks like you're the sort to always put yourself first in any relationship that you find yourself in, while at the same time expecting the other party to always put you first as well. People are probably better off just leaving you alone to be in that relationship you have going on with yourself at least until you learn to have some respect for the feelings of others.

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@ You're rude

Apr 28, 2021 at 7:33pm

What's wrong with OP's idea of setting up mutual expectations around communications, though? They're not necessarily being inconsiderate; they are just challenging the idea that we need to be tied to our phones and to other people's needs at all times.

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@@ You're rude

Apr 28, 2021 at 9:34pm

Has nothing to do with being tied to your phone and to other people's needs at all times even though the OP was likely spending their time on their phone taking selfies and stringing along others as well. It's simply about not leaving the other person hanging, and putting in your share of the effort to maintain the relationship. As far as challenging relationship etiquette who the hell needs the drama of being your relationship social experiment? ffs

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Projecting

Apr 28, 2021 at 10:11pm

I find it interesting how people project their own issues onto the OP in these discussions. The way I read the OP's post was that they were fed up of being required to jump when the other person demanded it. But that's probably because I myself feel put upon by demanding, self-absorbed people who don't respect my boundaries! I may be completely wrong about what the OP is thinking. We don't live in other people's heads and can't presume to know what they're thinking.

Define bit

Apr 29, 2021 at 6:52am

Do you mean "a bit " or "just a little bit "?

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OP

Apr 29, 2021 at 11:52am

Look. I do what I want when I want. Why is everyone so uptight? SO what if im late? Im busy! So what if I flake out on everyone? Everyone just needs to chill. Im amazing.

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@Projecting

Apr 29, 2021 at 7:52pm

If it really didn't matter to the OP they wouldn't write a baiting post. It's passive aggressiveness, entitlement to people's time and lack of boundaries as long as their needs are met. It's interesting that people would choose to communicate in this way and not clue in anything's wrong.

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Hey shapeshifter

Apr 30, 2021 at 5:39pm

The "OP" comment was most definitely not written by the OP.

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@@projecting

May 1, 2021 at 12:53am

You see, it's interesting, but I see the opposite. I see the OP reacting to someone who feels entitled to the OP's time, and who isn't respecting the OP's boundaries. The clue is in their expressed desire for "mutual expectations on communication". But I guess that's why marriage guidance counselors and the like are so useful!

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@@@ Projecting

May 1, 2021 at 9:36am

Your comments make sense and you are being attacked for making sense by someone who does not want their projection and entitlement to be seen.

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